Go time...and time to go. Sucks...

Shaggy · 03-03-2012, 06:32 PM

Only response possble.

I know, that's why I didn't put up with your cheating for even a second.
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dymo · 03-03-2012, 07:36 PM

Could she know about Red?

If she does, maybe reply something like "I didn't."

Shamwow · 03-03-2012, 07:43 PM

Yeah she knows about Red. She said something a week or two ago when we were packing the house stuff. She said she heard I had a gal, and wished me the best.

Seems to be accepting reality better these days.
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chapparal · 03-03-2012, 08:58 PM

Hope she gets some help.

warlock07 · 03-04-2012, 02:58 PM

Quote:

And lord knows I'm not anywhere near the best - but I can definitely say I'm trying.

That is what makes you very good. And don't respond with the responses suggested here. They do look a bit lame..Sorry guys no offense but they are really bad.

Do you think she is fishing again?

morituri · 03-05-2012, 08:59 AM

Must be the wine talking. She wouldn't express that while sober.

I agree with Warlock. It's better that Sham's actions do all the talking instead.

Conrad · 03-05-2012, 11:07 AM

Two words:

"I won't"

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Originally Posted by Shamwow

Text out of the blue from XW today:

"You're probably the best guy out there. Never forget it, never settle!"

Not sure what to do with that. Will respond eventually, but it's interesting to know she's at least having some realizations about what's been lost in her life by her choices. Guessing she's finding out there are a lot of wankers out there posing as potential partners.

And lord knows I'm not anywhere near the best - but I can definitely say I'm trying.

bandit.45 · 03-05-2012, 11:12 AM

Sad when a person realizes what they have lost only when they come to a brief moment of clarity.

Enjoy the compliment Sham, but don't dwell on it. She'll be back to her old nasty self in no time.
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Shamwow · 03-28-2012, 07:01 PM

Update. Financial vent.

Just got back from a two week trip to the UK (ultimately business, but a good chunk of which was pleasure). The mail waiting for me at home was not friendly.

I knew the divorce would bring down some financial rain for a year or two, but until now I've been able to avoid austerity measures.

Now I feel like Greece.

I make a decent living, but it's getting hard to keep up without another income to supplant my rather erratically-timed freelance income. Deferred taxes (oops, I was "pre-occupied" last spring thanks to ex), divorce costs, short sale buyout on the house (ouch), storage, blah blah. IRS up my a**. Never thought I'd be that guy. Not really as bad as all that I guess, but it doesn't feel good.

Ex is swimming in debt and financial destruction. But alas, I am not immune.

That said, life is amazing. I'm still on top of my day to day, work continues, I have my dogs, my biceps are huge

, Red is such a sweet girl and brings me massive joy - wow is the only appropriate word. She has no idea what I make. But she knows I'm under strain...I can't hide it (nor am I attempting to). But I refuse to handle this any other way than on my own. I'm my own man, and any troubles are my own.

This is all inconsequential I guess...my point is I'm presently finding myself extremely angry with my ex for making this lovely situation a reality. Yes, she's 10 times worse off than me, but I find myself missing the comfort of a two-income marriage, where costs are split and an acceptable support structure exists without question. But do I wish I was still with her? Hell no.

Anyway...give me a year or so of pinching and all will be well (right?). Anyone divorce and get a comfy ride? If so, congrats. I have an apt, my car, my work gear and a little spending money, but everything that comes in is immediately owed to someone at the moment. So since I feel I can't justifiably complain anywhere else in my life, here I am b1tching to TAM. To all of you with kids...my most powerful lauds...respect...and awe. Because this is not fun. And I don't have kids to support.

Will not let this affect my happiness. Just my immediate comfort level.

Rant complete. No response needed, just journaling, I guess. Good luck, all. Life moves on...

Hijo · 03-29-2012, 10:56 AM

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(not in any way affiliated, just sincerely hoping you can pull through)

dymo · 04-02-2012, 02:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shamwow

Update. Financial vent.

Just got back from a two week trip to the UK (ultimately business, but a good chunk of which was pleasure). The mail waiting for me at home was not friendly.

I knew the divorce would bring down some financial rain for a year or two, but until now I've been able to avoid austerity measures.

Now I feel like Greece.

I make a decent living, but it's getting hard to keep up without another income to supplant my rather erratically-timed freelance income. Deferred taxes (oops, I was "pre-occupied" last spring thanks to ex), divorce costs, short sale buyout on the house (ouch), storage, blah blah. IRS up my a**. Never thought I'd be that guy. Not really as bad as all that I guess, but it doesn't feel good.

Ex is swimming in debt and financial destruction. But alas, I am not immune.

That said, life is amazing. I'm still on top of my day to day, work continues, I have my dogs, my biceps are huge

, Red is such a sweet girl and brings me massive joy - wow is the only appropriate word. She has no idea what I make. But she knows I'm under strain...I can't hide it (nor am I attempting to). But I refuse to handle this any other way than on my own. I'm my own man, and any troubles are my own.

This is all inconsequential I guess...my point is I'm presently finding myself extremely angry with my ex for making this lovely situation a reality. Yes, she's 10 times worse off than me, but I find myself missing the comfort of a two-income marriage, where costs are split and an acceptable support structure exists without question. But do I wish I was still with her? Hell no.

Anyway...give me a year or so of pinching and all will be well (right?). Anyone divorce and get a comfy ride? If so, congrats. I have an apt, my car, my work gear and a little spending money, but everything that comes in is immediately owed to someone at the moment. So since I feel I can't justifiably complain anywhere else in my life, here I am b1tching to TAM. To all of you with kids...my most powerful lauds...respect...and awe. Because this is not fun. And I don't have kids to support.

Will not let this affect my happiness. Just my immediate comfort level.

Rant complete. No response needed, just journaling, I guess. Good luck, all. Life moves on...

This is the first post that genuinely feels like it belongs in 'Life After Divorce'. Maybe it's time for a new thread. You might even get some advice from people who were also once Greece.
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Shamwow · 04-02-2012, 05:20 PM

You make a good point. Thread complete, y'all.
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Almostrecovered · 04-02-2012, 05:46 PM

Last post !!

chapparal · 04-02-2012, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Almostrecovered

Last post !!

Good luck with that! Doh!

morituri · 04-02-2012, 07:07 PM

yeah.