I am 40 I was with my wife 13 years. married 5. No kids. Joint mortgage for 10 years. We've had financial problems for years. I was verbally abusive towards here family. I had anger issues, punched walls etc. I went on medication and solved problems. But we grew apart. I didn't provide the atention she deserved. Recently she starting drinking and going out with friends. She was even drunk at my family outings. She has suffered from depression from her childhood because her father abandoned her and later on in life at age 17 her "dad" was murdered. I sensed distance. We were to go on a weekend trip with another couple but could afford to kennel dogs and I allowed her to go. When the other couple arrived there was a single man in the car. I let her go because I trusted her and the other couple. Unkown to me she had an emotional affair with 1000's of texts with the guy. 2 weeks later she left for a weekend and said she wasn"t coming home. He was there. She came back home and wrote and emotionaless 9 page letter give our marriage 6 months. Thats was Sunday. The following week was bliss. I took my mother out of state for high school reunion and she left. 2 days later filed for divorce. She has removed all belongings from house and moved in with her mother to find her "self worth." I started gym and I work full time and started school at night. 13 hours days. She lets the dogs out during day. She recently emailed and said she will let dogs out but wants no contact and NOTHING from the relationship but her "self worth." It's been a month, I am going to counseling and am on a couple antidepressants. I realized my problems and I am fixing them, I am fixing me. Should I even care about her and us? Should I just move on? Mutual friends have confirmed her EA never became physical....he's just a "nice guy" I miss her dearly....do I?....or just because I am alone in a house. Oh yeah, she ahs refused to pay 1/2 of mortgage. Help!!!