My wife filed for divorce yesterday. I love her so much and I want to work it out. I don't know how much hope there is. We have two children. One I am not the biological father but he has called me dad for 3 years. We have been fighting off and on for about a year now. It started about 2 months before I came home from Afghanistan. Things get better and then worse. When we go through hard times, she starts saying that I'm so angry and she is frightened. I have never done anything to indicate that I would harm her or the kids. It is like she is prepairing to set me up if we go to court. I saw a counselor at her request and she went with me on the first visit to "tell the counselor" about my behavior. She was suprised when the counselor had things to say to her. She cried when we got home and said it was all her fault. The next week she didn't like my counselor, who said there was nothing wrong with me. She sought counseling herself and was prescribed antidepressants. After several sessions she started to say that she didn't like his advice with the things she needed to work on. I started seeing a new counselor and after several of my sessions, She started to come with me. She stopped going to her own. Things got worse again. Two weeks ago she wanted to go herself after we had gotten into an argument. She said I twist things when I just tell my side of the story. After that session she began stating whenever we argued that she was going to leave if I didn't change and it was for the kids. It was frequent. Our last session didn't end the best when I mentioned that she acts as though she is the only one who has parental power over our son. She was advised by the counselor not to use the phrase about her leaving. She did days later and I said if she wanted to leave then go. Things spiraled down from there. She thought I was going to take our baby and not give him back. She denied me taking him home and only allowed uncomfortable visits while her family stood guard like I was dangerous. I was stupid and went there without a witness for myself and feel like she has set me up. I don't know what to do. Despite everything, I want to work things out. She filed for divorce yesterday and finally decided to bring our baby to me before she went to work and is picking him up afterward. Our other son, which I am not the biological father, she probably won't let me see him. She doesn't want to even talk about the divorce and possibility of mending things. She still wants to contribute to our bills. I have been asking her to seek marriage counseling elsewhere from a real psychologist instead of a woman working out of her home. She refused to listen. She has depression and anxiety which I know are factors in how she is acting. I love her and want to grow old with her. Is there any way to get through to her? Is it over? Do I leave her alone and wait for her to calm down? To I tell her I love her when I see her or give her space?