Folks, I am lost and do not know what to do...
I have been reading these boards for a while and they have been of great value. Unfortunately I'm still lost....
My wife and I of 18 years have been seperated for the last month. We are still under the same roof. A month ago she came to me and said "I cant do this anymore, I have nothing more to give" along with the "I don't love you anymore" statement. I was absolutely stunned as there was *nothing* leading up to this. We were getting along, but did have the occasional argument. Nothing major.
Over the last month I have learned by her that this has been coming in her mind for the last 5 months. She told me nothing. She just feels she needs to "be alone". She is going to a counsler for some things in her past that she needs to deal with but she is stead fast that we are done and she wants out.
I have tried to give her space, and it got to the point that we were getting along somewhat like husband and wife over the past week and a half only to find out that she still intends to move out in November. To be honest, I find that disgusting as if she wants out she needs to be out. So, I have drawn a line in the sand and told her she needs to leave. She is still in the house but we are not talking at all. She said that I need to see a counsler as we are both "broken" and need to be fixed before we work on the marriage. Folks, I don't know if I have it in me. We had a very rough time with things she did while we dated many moons ago, and I see that person in her again.
There is *no* affair happening as she is not "off with friends" and has up until just recently kept me informed on what she is up to. She has just completely buried herself in work. Her ring is off, her passwords changed, but I honestly dont believe an affair is happening.
My own feelings swing wildly from anger, to frustation, to unbearable pain, and I just don't know how to proceed....
Any help or ideas anybody has would be beyond helpful..
Last edited by frigginlost; 10-05-2011 at 01:14 PM.