Well, the bomb was dropped this morning.
My wife says she wants to get a mediator and file for legal separation.
She says she wants to hold off on divorce but she won't tell me why.
You can view our background here (just look at the first post): She doesn't love me anymore???
But to sum it up, she says she doesn't love me anymore. She says she can't feel give love nor receive love.
She says she feels empty, hollow inside. She says she has past issues that she needs to work out.
And she doesn't know how long that process will take. She says that
it wasn't me at all. That I didn't fail her or her family. She doesn't want to live as roommates. That
would be too awkward for her. But I asked her yet again today if she wants to see other men, and if she
is seeing someone else. The answer to both questions was no. She doesn't want to try to date or reconnect.
She says she just wants to be happy. She says she realizes that separation likely will end in divorce.
I don't know what we are going to do about the mortgage right now. But I want to do right by my kids.
There is a 16-year old stepdaughter involved - she says she wants a place to stay in both houses. She says
I am the only dad she has.
But we have a 3-year old son together. She says he is 50/50. She just got a three-bedroom place
without telling me. But I don't know if that is the best thing to do for him. My parents tell me
I should fight for full legal custody. My wife says that I will not take him away from her. Shouldn't
he need constancy? A place to always go? A parent that is always there?
I don't know what to do. Should I change the locks now like my folks are begging me to do?
My probably soon to be ex-wife says that I can't take him away, that she is not unfair, unreasonable
or unfit. And I believe her. But SHE is the one who walked out.
I don't want this to get ugly. But if the right thing for my son is full legal custody, then it WILL
get ugly. My wife says I'll have to prove she is unfit.
I am so confused. Has anyone gone through anything similar? What is the right thing to do?