A friend a couple streets over had spent time with her alone
How long after D did this start happening? How old was your daughter when you D?
Introducing kids to new people? When is to soon? I doubt I have this problem as I'm moving to a new town, so I won't know anyone myself.
Just curious. Thanks for insight.
My daughter was 12 at divorce. The situation you're referring to from my post was about a year after the divorce. She had hung out with that particular friend, and others, in various social situations prior. Barbecues, beach trips with a large group of friends, etc. Some of my friends were people I knew through work that I never really socialized with outside of work as a result of the state of my marriage. So short after my wife leaving the house, I was able to have a social life again.
I think that introducing kids to new people, isn't really time dependent. A new significant other, or person you're dating, boo, bae, what have you, is different though.
People and friends are just people and friends. If you trust them around your children, then it's not a problem.
In the midst of divorce/separation however, it's important to consider the impact to your children as to what you do. There's at least a few parts to that. Is it too soon to send that message to them? Are they mature enough to understand and cope? How will they feel about it? There's also the ex to consider. Will your ex become upset to a point to participate in Parental Alienation as a result? Is it a fling? Are you introducing them to someone who may not be there in a week?
For me - my daughter was mature enough to understand most anything she could see. I wasn't dating. I was hanging out with friends. Typically we all went places as a group. She had their children to hang out with. Many were her school friends. When I did date, I dated in her absence for quite some time. she put it together on her own. She finally approached me ans said, "I know about<person> and you should know it's ok dad."
Your experience may vary greatly.