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OMG Its happening again

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#1 ·
3 years ago my wife asked for a seperation then moved a drug dealer into my house and i ended up with custody and kids . She was accused of neglect by the state. I took her back after some aweful times of court battles and nightmare visits . Now she has served me today saying that i had we had sex against her will and all kinds of lies on her affidavit . She has taken all my money again for the third time and now wants all the kids and the house and everything. I have no idea why. We where doing great in my eyes and had some bumps but got through them. You can read my past in the history. Now i have no money and i noticed she keeps talking and texting someone but denies there is someone else. I am stronger now because I became suicidal before I did not want to lose my children . Please help me
 
#2 ·
does anyone have any idea why she would switch this quickly she kissed me goodnight last night . she has obviously planned this but lied until today when i was served. 3 years ago when she lost at court she attemted suidice by swalling 60 wellbutrin and swam out to see about a mile. the fire department had to save her Ive been through hell with this witch
 
#4 ·
Time for war. Go get your money back. Surely you have something you can hold over her head?

She can't just get the house and kids. Get money from family/friends and get an attorney tomorrow.

If this was my wife, I'd be thinking of some horrible and dark things to do to her. If she's a good mother, then I suppose that helps her cause to exist. I feel for you man.
 
#5 ·
Bcc,

Come with and join the pack of us going through similar situations. Cut her loose and go enjoy your life. You and I are similar in the fact that we are married the idea of a perfect woman than anything else. Just take off those rose coloured glasses and see her for what she really is.

Then ask yourself why you would put your self-value at such a low level to remain with a spouse with these qualities. Here again we are similar. Don't cut yourself off of new happiness by holding on to past pain my friend.
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#6 ·
Surely I was a fool Time and time again I dont know if I want to go on. I wont be able to live without my kids ever. I would rather die at this point . She is an evil person. She filed temporary orders to get me out of the house on the 16th. I dont have anymore rose colored glasses. Maybe I should just end my life . I dont know what kind of ammunition she has but she says the children are at risk in the temporary orders by a bunch of lies. I cannot go on with a new life. This was my life. i wont make it guys
 
#7 ·
Im losing my strength now. I cant sleep. I was manipulated behind my back. I will have no place to go and all my money was cash and she hid it and its all gone everything I worked for. Whats the point of staying alive broke and my children gone
 
#8 ·
Don't do it, don't let her win. Do not give in to the idea to end your life. It is dark as hell right now, but don't give up. Killing yourself will not help your kids. They need you now more than ever. Fight for you life, fight for you kids - do not give up and never give in.
 
#9 ·
gator she set me up, orders say im a drunk and I forced her to make love one night but i remember what a good time we had she is lying and perjury . what is she doing to me elegirl i know you remember me , all that i went through. Please help im dying i wont make it , who did I marry who is this person 15 years together and she turns on me out of the blue. 3 days ago she brought me a coffee and was so nice to me and 2 days ago she asked me to come to bed with her while I was watching TV she states now that she was just trying to hide what was coming. Gator. i love my kids so bad. If she wins she wants everything kids , more money and support she has every penny i have i let her stash it in a safe she now has. the set me up. Does it sound like another guy? she says no but her lies just continue and continue anyway if i lose my kids Im a dead man my kids are my life. i
 
#10 ·
Get some help. Real help! Call a counselor or the community mental health in your area. They will have places that you can go free or sliding scale. Do it today. You need a support system.

Suicide is never the answer. You love your kids. You have every reason to fight for them and live. Did you know that children that have a parent that commits suicide is more likely to do the same when they are an adult. Why? It's a way out and their parent took it. Don't leave the legacy. Show them what it looks like, to get help, get better and move on.

One day..one hour at a time. What can you do now?
 
#12 ·
My current G/F's dad committed suicide a week after she turned 21. It did a lot of damage to her and her siblings. So selfish. Don't even think about it.

Go to war with your STBX and make it your mission to make her life a living hell.

Get a VAR (audio recording device) and get her to admit she lied about the forced sex. Bait her into telling the truth on the audio recording. Then once you have it, tell her you give me all of my $ back and I'll give you the recording. Yeah, it's black male. But you have to fight dirty. Get the $ back and still have her arrested for lying. Of course, deny the black male part... again, get an attorney.
 
#14 ·
with the history of her being neglectful you will still end up with the house and kids. Its your word against her word and she already had her kids taken away once .

quit stressing and get a lawyer. I'm sure her secret pal is motivating her to do this so he can share whatever they think they can get.

lawyer lawyer lawyer.
 
#16 ·
Guys Im alone tonight for the first time in years that I havent seen my children. She took them to stay with her friend . I love my babys I dont think i can do this anymore. My lawyer told me to not be in the house with her alone so I am staying at work. I miss my babies Please I cant make it I need them. I think Id rather be dead guys Im heading there
 
#19 ·
I'm afraid you're going to go over there and do something stupid.

I mean, this woman took all your money and your children from you, she basically destroyed your life and you can't take it anymore and you're headed over there.

This won't end well.
 
#20 ·
She is bipolar, moved a drug dealer in my house who i found out had three outstanding warrants, was arrested. She lost custody of children and house after a year i let her come home and she is pulling this crap on me again. This was three years ago
 
#23 ·
Well it sounds like the courts are on your side, they basically gave you everything the last time so there's no reason to think they won't do it again despite some very poor decisions on your part.

Back on the hamster wheel you go, you did it once and got a favorable outcome, let's hope history repeats.
 
#24 ·
You guys are so right , what was I ever thinking by taking her back. I guess I just wished I always had that perfect family but fooled myself. I will never take her back now. Ever if I survive this night I will never never take her back. I just want my children, I love my children so much. I need to survive this night
 
#25 ·
bcc - Prayers to you. I know right now is a very stressful time, but I promise you there are happy times ahead. Most people in your situation would be in a state of shock. Anyone would be shocked and stressed out if their spouse "sprang" this on them -- wanting a divorce out of the blue, filing incriminating and UNTRUE court motions - demanding the kids. I promise you are better off without her. Perhaps she has a disorder, perhaps she is one of those people who only cares about herself.

There is a good chance you will get full custody or perhaps shared custody. Also, in my divorce it did not matter who had the cash *in their possession* -- in my divorce both parties were required to list all assets, and then the lawyers hammered out a settlement agreement that split up our assets. So I don't think she can withdrawl your money and then just keep it. You are in a stressful situation and it is normal that you can't sleep and are upset. Hopefully your good friends are there for you....I agree with the others that you need a lawyer ASAP and to pay for a lawyer, borrow money if you have to.......Also run don't walk to get a counselor -- caring counselors work wonders!!! Sometimes the counselors through a church are very affordable. I am telling you there is light at the end of the tunnel......your kids will see when they are a bit older that you are a loving stable parent who takes the high road. Your kids will appreciate and benefit from that. I highly doubt she will get custody. Keep us posted!!
 
#28 ·
ABhale you are so right . She moved a drug dealer in my house with my 3 kids!!!!!! I have 2 college degrees and still fall for the stupidity I guess it does make you stupid thank you She is a thing thats all .
Marc you are right too, this is my fault for letting this sociopath back in my home
 
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