Met him at a NYE party and friend zoned him because I always knew he was married. However, at the party he opened up to me about how his wife cheated 3 months back and had moved out to be with her boyfriend. We started hanging out more frequently in the weeks to come as I had gone through a divorce with no children the year prior so it was easy to relate. He told me he was in process of a divorce and was working with his attorney and should be done by the end of summer. They have no kids. I don't really ask about the progress since it's a sensitive matter and let him tell me when/if he wants. Fast forward 5-6 months to present time and I ask him how everything's coming along. At this point, we are pretty much boyfriend girlfriend. He says nothing has progressed and he needs to go at it at his own pace. I become really upset and tell him it's not fair to me, especially because she moved back into their home and now wants to reconcile. She has gotten drunk to the point of hospitalization several times, been in a car wreck, and calls him almost everyday. He got his own apt. I told him I can't deal with all this drama and to call me when he's at least filed the papers.
He finally tells me that he's been seeing a therapist on his own for the last several months to deal with the situation. Apparently he is advised to postpone the divorce until she is more stable because she is suicidal and is checking into a mental health program for the next 2 months. He is telling me he's not asking me to wait around, and that this delay does not mean he loves her or wants to get back together with her, but so he can have a clear conscious. He knows the outcome will be divorce sometime this year, but because of her mental health, he is afraid to push her over the edge. He says she has never been this bad and doesn't know what happened to her.
At this point, I want to be with him, but I don't know how things will play out.
He finally tells me that he's been seeing a therapist on his own for the last several months to deal with the situation. Apparently he is advised to postpone the divorce until she is more stable because she is suicidal and is checking into a mental health program for the next 2 months. He is telling me he's not asking me to wait around, and that this delay does not mean he loves her or wants to get back together with her, but so he can have a clear conscious. He knows the outcome will be divorce sometime this year, but because of her mental health, he is afraid to push her over the edge. He says she has never been this bad and doesn't know what happened to her.
At this point, I want to be with him, but I don't know how things will play out.