You are right as usual Chuck, everything you say about her on what she did and what she is already doing again, it's like your reading my life story. I'm no longer worrying so much about what she's doing..I pretty much know how she's going to end up, I hope I'm wrong. For my girls sake, I hope she does good in life. But I just know she's going to need my help down the road. Her whole family is a mess, I just don't know if I should help when the time comes. I just hate that I have too because I always feel bad for my girls.
At this point I'm more worried about myself now. I do feel like I'm in a sort of depression. I don't have much friends because I was always dedicated to my family. I mean I don't even know what i like doing anymore.. sometimes I feel happy and excited about a new start, but don't know where to begin, theirs times where I'm eating at restaurant or out some other place and I meet some interesting woman and just feel like asking them out, not on a romantic date but more like hey ! Want to go out and do something fun...like an amusement park or something like that. Somewhere where I can have fun... Where I can have a good old laugh.. lol. I haven't had one in a while that I forgot what it's like. But, then again I wouldn't even know how to act or be ..I don't even remember the old me. I know someone on here will tell me, you need to spend time by yourself first..but I feel like I've been alone for years.. I don't know I just need to figure out how to crawl out of this depression
Like Bon Jovi sang in 1989 -we're together but alone- I completely get that.
You can have fun with 1-alone, 2-your girls, 3-a female, 4-the guys. It's easy but you are now "out of
your comfort zone." This is very common. Tomas.... What are your hobbies?
On the depression... I've had it, I had it bad as a teen too but I have always felt part of it was due
to my medication, tegretal. It was not classified as a depressant but by sheet it
gave me more blues than Muddy Waters. Talk to your doctor and be honest with him / her.
If you don't have health coverage, go to the local health department. Depression can get a grip
on you and it will not let go... been there. About your STBXW... I know part of you will always
love her. I GET that... he!! I still love "who my XW WAS".... I care zero for who she turned into.
Your STBXW has issues, her family has issues, that is NOT your problem. I asked myself the EXACT
question right around my D. I think it was in my first post of Crossroads II. My XW needed help and I
said I do hope she seeks that help out. But she is an adult and knows how to seek it. And she is NOT
my responsibility any longer. Tomas... your STBX poor mouths you on her family, her own issues,
the kids, etc etc etc... she's trying to pull your wanker more than a Roman bath house on dime
bear night. LET HER OWN IT. That is the ONLY way she can ever recover. She never believed you
would follow through with the D because you probably threatened leaving her in the past.
Remember the fable about the boy who cried wolf? When you become serious about your
actions and follow through.... she will then, take you seriously. And respect you a LOT more.