Re: Wife left my girls and me for a coworker
Have you filed for divorce yet? If not, get it done, and push the divorce through to completion ASAP.
She's still in a dopamine-induced affair fog, so use that to your advantage -- you want the divorce to be over and done with well before the shine starts to come off the apple. You want her 110% focused on her relationship w/ Mr. Minimumwage McFoodstamps.
Limit contact to ONLY topics concerning the kids or the divorce, and use e-mail for that. In other words, no more texting, and no more phone calls that don't involve emergencies w/ the kids. This will help you to disengage and detach, as well as ensuring that everything is documented and easily accessible. Oh, and change passwords to everything -- e-mail, social media, etc.
Prepare yourself for a life w/o her; to that end, read up on and implement the 180.
Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."
Burt: "You sound like a Scooby Doo villain."