Re: Wife left my girls and me for a coworker
You didn't fail at anything. You are a loving, sensitive father who wants the best for his kids. No one will ever call that a failure.
Ending a marriage should hurt. It should rip you to pieces, because if it doesn't its hard to say it ever meant anything in the first place. When I divorced, I filled out the paperwork at the lawyer's office and they were arranging the service since the ex had already moved out of state. I checked on line to see when it happened and that first time I saw my divorce file on the court docket I just shriveled up and cried. We had a few delays in getting the uncontested order signed, and I sent the ex an email to tell him it was final (stupid-I should have let him find out in the mail, but that's a former co-dependent for you). His reply was "MEH" I had to ask the kids what that meant. After they told me I became really angry. How dare he MEH a 28 year marriage!
You think you are failing because right now, you believe you are completely responsible for the world. You're not. You are responsible for you, and your kids. You are not responsible for your STBX's conduct, or behavior. That is her burden to carry. Let her.
In youth it was a way I had, to do my best to please, And change, with every passing lad to suit his theories.
But now I know the things I know, and do the things I do; And if you do not like me so, To hell, my love, with you! --Dorothy Parker