I know its just so hard to let go I see all the bad things she's doing and what she's putting my girls through. Yet its also so hard to believe the way she is acting ,she's a totally different person and its hard to believe she considers this other man her soul mate, she makes it seem likes she's really happy, I haven't had contact with her in over a month . no calls or text, its just hard to believe she doesn't care. To be honest this new guy doesn't even seem like he shares a lot of things in common besides the fact of making her laugh and loved as she says
So what! I can guarantee you it "looks" a lot better for her than it actually is. Take comfort in the fact that you no longer have to worry about whether she will be trustworthy or not. She is no longer on your gravy train, and that is a GOOD THING. Don't worry about her feelings anymore, or what she says. Who's to say she is being truthful anyway? She's NOT! Even your girls know that, and that is what you need to focus on.
I know it doesn't look like it now, but you are MUCH, MUCH better without her. It may be hard to believe right now, but the day WILL come when you don't care about her personal life anymore. The more you focus on other things the less time it will take to heal.
Get that divorce! Keep custody, and don't concede anything of value without a fight. You didn't deserve this. It was HER FAULT!
It may take a while, but one day you will look back at this relationship and wonder why you ever put up with it as long as you did, and why you invested so many tears and fears into somebody who definitely wasn't worth it.
Another woman will come along in a few months that actually has morals, and won't treat you that way. I guarantee it. Just make sure you are completely over her before any future relationship.