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post #136 of 139 (permalink) Old 07-21-2016, 10:27 AM Thread Starter
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Re: He says he wants divorce, I don't think he does and I sure don't

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Just be careful what you tell her anyway. She doesn't need to know anything sensitive that she could accidentally let slip to your STBX.

The reality is that there isn't much you can do about the OW being around your child, if there still is one, unless she has done something provable to indicate she is a danger to the child. Some states allow morality clauses. Usually, the morality clause says no unrelated members of the opposite sex can stay in the home when the child is in residence. However, that doesn't mean that the opposite sex person can't be there from, say, 9 am until 2 am. Long as they don't sleep over.

Can you prove your STBXH told you to take your little girl with you out of state? That would likely go a long way toward making sure your STBXH doesn't get primary custody.
I"ll be careful of what i say to people. I don't think anyone is staying in my house but if they are they are. I haven't been there in six months. I have a text from me to him that states the separation, specifically that we agreed I'd leave, then days later I told him I wanted to stay and he said it would be best for him if she and I left. I asked him in the text if he recalled all of that and he said yes I recall that. That is my proof. About all I have too. I had every message we'd sent to each other, but lost most of them because I didn't realize my phone was set to automatically delete texts after 30 days.

I'll be sending my response papers today or tomorrow. I will feel better once they are in the courts possession.


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post #137 of 139 (permalink) Old 07-24-2016, 07:42 PM
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For anyone who has gone through divorce with children, I need your honest opinion. He filed first, in Nevada, one day before my six month residency in Montana had occurred. So Nevada has jurisdiction over everything.

I can get jurisdiction changed but it isn't likely it will happen. My attorney told me the best thing to do right now is just send back the divorce answer papers and include why she would be better off with me. She's already established here, in school here, enrolled in the after school program which is also a summer program that includes trips to the pool and swimming lessons. My entire family is here to help, she and I have a huge support system here.

He doesn't have that in Nevada and his work hours are very long. He also works 8 days on and 6 off, roughly 10-11 hour days with no way to get her to school in the morning and have her picked up. If the bus were to take her after school I don't know where she'd go. The bus can't pick her up because she'd be home alone. He leaves for work around 5-5:30 in the morning and doesn't typically get home till 4:30 or 5.

My question is: what are the chances the judge will grant me primary custody? I work 7-8 hours a day and have Friday's off which she is also off from school here. My mom and sister both work until 2 pm and can pick her up from school if I needed them to. I also have two cousins, an uncle and a brother in law here. They also will watch her for me if need be. We've been here a little over six months and have not left the state. The benefits for her here far outweigh those she'd have in Nevada.

I can't lose my daughter because he made bad choices and wanted a divorce when I wanted to reconcile.
Sadly, it is more than likely that a judge will grant a 50/50 split here. Have you thought of moving back to the state your husband is ta so that you can share custody more easily?
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Sadly, it is more than likely that a judge will grant a 50/50 split here. Have you thought of moving back to the state your husband is ta so that you can share custody more easily?
No I can't even consider moving back. I can't afford to live there let alone find a job there. That's completely out of the question. My entire family is in Montana, I have nothing in Nevada.

She can't go to school in Nevada one year and the next in Montana. She is going to have to live with one of us for the school year. That's just how it is. I won't go back to Nevada.

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Re: He says he wants divorce, I don't think he does and I sure don't

Hey all, I wasn't sure if I should start a new thread or continue on this one, so here I am. Guess I made up my mind lol. Just wanted to post an update for those of you who so graciously helped me get through a rough time in my life. I am near the completion of my divorce, it should be final in a couple months, fingers crossed. I have my daughter, and it's looking like it's going to stay that way. I have been doing well. I have a new SO in my life, and he is absolutely wonderful. We are in a LDR, roughly 700 miles apart, but we've made it work quite well. We have met up with each other three times since dating, twice where I live and once where he lives. He's just so amazing and I am genuinely happy again. Who'd have thought lol.

I hope everyone here is doing well :-)

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