Re: He says he wants divorce, I don't think he does and I sure don't
I think you are making gross generalisations. In my case for example I gave up a good career where I was earning more than my husband to look after kids and travel around the world (it sounds great but not so exciting when you do it for the umpteeth time looking for schools, homes, new network, etc) to support his career. If following your logic we were to divorce, I should be getting my own job and getting on with it. I do now have a full time good paying job due but the point is I did everything while he worked so the wealth created we did it together (anyway my H is useless with money and i am the saving and investing kind of gal). So in our scenario would it be 'fair' in your opinion if I get nothing just because the kids no longer need financing let's say. I would think that is grossly unfair. I ought to seek lost earnings and compensation for domestic support services which based on peer reviewed research the domestic support alone equates to approx USD65,000 per annum. Men cannot earn and create wealth without having domestic support and knowing their family, household, etc is being taken care of. Unfortunately, too many put no value on this at all, no wonder many females don't want to marry or have families.
Fabulous post, aine.
One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man