10-28-2011, 04:11 PM
Join Date: Oct 2011
| | Re: Eating dinner alone
It is a process. The steps of trauma (from my counsellor) are 1. Shock, 2. Denial 3. Anger 4. Depression 5. Frustration 6. Acceptance. You can go back and forth in the steps until you get to acceptance.
Sad, you can make a choice every moment about how you feel. Right now, decide to be happy. Put a smile on your face, even if it is fake at first, you will soon start smiling naturally. Don't play the victim. Do you want to move out or do you want him to move out? Talk to a lawyer and see what your rights are. Don't let the ex dictate the terms.
Try doing stuff that you enjoy. Walking, photography, going to library, etc., etc. Rediscover yourself. Allow yourself to see the fact that you are now free.
I know it is incredibly difficult. I have been going through this process for a year. But I promise you, it will get better! The most important thing is to make a choice about how you feel. Don't let the ex have control over your emotions.