Bandit, did you not know about the old clan curse? The wearer of the tartan, who role plays, shall be visited by the spirits. I don't need to explain the punishment
Someone send me a link today, regarding men's hair removal cream. Look at the first review. I immediately thought of you
Thanks for the birthday wishes. I went out on Saturday night again. It was fun :-) I had an opportunity with a woman but gave it a miss as she was young enough to be my daughter. I have my morals and that's not what I am looking for.
My workmates (male and female) keep asking me if I'm on the pull. I answer no and sometimes get strange looks. They seem to think that being single means you are automatically looking for a woman.
I tried to figure out why I wasn't going out looking for another woman.
Could it be that I am not over my wife yet? The answer is no; she will play no part in my future and I am happy with this.
Could it be that I don't trust women any more. The answer is no; I have been treated badly by two women in my life. It doesn't mean that all women are bad, it just means I need to smarten up when choosing one.
I eventually came to the answer and it is twofold.
1) I am completely comfortable on my own. In fact, I am enjoying my new found freedom. I am happy to be doing things for myself for once and not for a woman, who didn't appreciate me. I don't need validation from a female as to whether I am a good guy. I know I am. The support from my kids prove that to me.
2) This one was an eye opener and it took me quite a while to realise. As a young man, I had my fair share of quick and short relationships. During these young years, the physical side was the target. The aim was to bed the best looking girl you possibly could. After this phase, I only had two serious relationships but both of these ended up becoming physical fairly quickly.
I realised what I have been missing - Romance, yes, romance, true romance. The excitement, the anticipation, the all night talks, the candle lit dinners, the hugs, the emotional connection. No, I am not on the pull. My days of being on the pull are in the past. If I never find this romance, then I am destined to be on my own. That does not fill me with fear. I will make it either way.
I am a few miles behind you on this path, I can not wait to get caught up to you.
I am getting there.
Congrats on the new found insight
It depends on your starting point mate. In hindsight, I always knew my wife had problems. She has probably done what I should have done. I tried to keep my family together but that may have been a mistake.
My kids seem to be responding very positively, so, something must be right. I am also responding positively, I am getting back to the person I used to be and I am enjoying that.
My W send my son a txt yesterday asking "How are you getting on with me not being there?" Now what sort of a question is that to ask a 12 year old? How can he answer that? What does she want the answer to be? Stupid woman.
Just tell him not to respond to her, is he in regular contact with her ?
I think the doubts are starting to eat at her and she is seeking validation from him, don't let him answer that, or answer with something unrelated, she is looking for emotional support for what she has done and obviously the bad decision that she has made
My W send my son a txt yesterday asking "How are you getting on with me not being there?" Now what sort of a question is that to ask a 12 year old? How can he answer that? What does she want the answer to be? Stupid woman.
After nearly six months, she asks this.
And you think this isn't related to the post immediately before it?
Just tell him not to respond to her, is he in regular contact with her ?
I think the doubts are starting to eat at her and she is seeking validation from him, don't let him answer that, or answer with something unrelated, she is looking for emotional support for what she has done and obviously the bad decision that she has made
Stay strong
Very insightful Mike. You're the third person to suggest something along those lines. Your advice has been taken on board. My son hasn't answered txt and I can see that he is feeling awkward. Just need to clear my head and figure out the best way forward for my son.
I know what you are saying but I fear the damage she can cause to my son on her way down.
To be honest, I can't enjoy her demise. I actually pity her. I feel sorry for her. I want her to move forward with her life and sort out her issues.
But, rest assured though, she will not be part of my life again.
I wish I had words to console you.
But, users use people. They usually don't discriminate in those choices. Only when they hit rock bottom is there potential for re-evaluation and growth.
Only when they hit rock bottom is there potential for re-evaluation and growth.
Powerful words Conrad and therein lies the absolute truth. This stands true for all who have chosen a destructive path in whatever area and for whatever reason.
Let's hope they emerge in better shape than they entered.
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