OutOfTheBlue

Oh, I'm sure she would

I'm just about caught up on your own threads. You have been through some tough times my friend.

OutOfTheBlue

Took my kids out for a meal last night. It is my youngest D's 19th birthday today. It was great to see us all so relaxed together and having fun.

As I type this, my W has just popped a birthday card through the door. I hardly recognised her. She has obviously put a bit of effort in. Good for her but she would be better investing time and money in some IC instead of clothes and cosmetics.

Anyway, on to a more serious matter, what am I going to wear tonight? Leather trousers - check, gold medallion - check, fake chest hair - check.......... Only kidding lol

bandit.45

We all have. The walking wounded are we. I just hope I can get through this with as much style as you have shown.
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OutOfTheBlue

Bandit, I consider myself fortunate. I am a confident person with enough self belief to get through this. I am fortunate that I can dismiss most things that are not life threatening and focus on the positives. Having said that, the journey over the last six months has not been easy but I am a long way down the road from the original car crash. The good thing is, I am no longer looking back at it, I am looking at the bright lights I see ahead.

You have strengths and weaknesses, just like the rest of us. Focus on your strengths. Like most of us on here, you have strong beliefs, with good morals and you come across as a genuine, wear your heart on your sleeve type of guy. Don't just read these words, don't just say them, digest them and believe them. Wear them as a badge. Walk with your head held high. You have attributes that money can't buy, that drugs can't substitute and that no-one can take. Use these attributes, don't accept second best, you deserve better.

Why Not Be Happy?

Bandit and Blue:
You guys are the best!

bandit.45

Thanks Blue. That means a lot. Because I do not feel that way right now. The exact opposite actually.
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proudwidaddy

Bandit you are one of the most genuine men I've encountered on this website; I can tell that you wear your heart on your sleeve (unlike me I wear my hear on both sleeve's, both pant legs, hehe). What blue says is true....we need to define ourselves not by other people and their beliefs of us, but by what we think of ourselves.

I'll give you two words of wisdom that have been told to me at various times in my life:

1) Character is how you act when no one is around to notice (brother I know you have character)
2) If everything you did was broadcasted on the front page of a newspaper, and you can still hold your head high....you are doing something right.

The future does have something good in store for all of us, sometimes we just have to go through a bumpy road to get there. Keep your head up!
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bandit.45

Good stuff Proud. Thanks.
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cabbage65

this place freaking rules

OutOfTheBlue

I was going to post how good my night out was on Saturday but then I thought about how many on here weren't having quite as good a time as I am.

Then I changed my mind and decided I would as we all need a little encouragement. For some reason my mind wandered into thinking about not tempting fate. Why, I don't know but I thought that maybe I should just keep my positive life changes a little more low key.

Half an hour ago, I received a phone call saying my brother was in hospital having suffered a mild heart attack. I thought about the strange feeling I had earlier. I am sure that it was pure coincidence but when you get knock after knock after knock, you begin to expect them.

Well I'm not going to fall into the same old negative trap that I would have. Having lost my Dad 18 months ago, my wife leaving 6 months ago, I am certain that I am not going to lose my brother now. Nope, I am not crossing bridges before I come to them, I am refusing to take that path. See you soon Bro.

OutOfTheBlue

And just as I finish that, I burst into tears. Bloody hell

OutOfTheBlue

Ok again

bandit.45

Good luck Blue. I hope your brother makes a full recovery.
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OutOfTheBlue

I'm sure he will Bandit - Thanks. How did I know you would post? Here's a man who's facing his own demons but still has empathy for others. Your a good man Bandit.

bandit.45

I'm a hot man. Its almost 100 F here in Arizona. What's the weather like in bonnie Scotland right now?
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