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Old 04-30-2012, 05:14 PM   #301 (permalink)
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I'm a hot man. Its almost 100 F here in Arizona. What's the weather like in bonnie Scotland right now?
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It's almost tropical. 8 degrees C, 46 degrees F. We had a nice sharp frost on Sunday morning. There will be many gardeners crying. Top temp on Saturday was 5 degrees C, 41 degrees F.
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Old 04-30-2012, 05:20 PM   #302 (permalink)
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I am sorry to hear about your brother, Blue. I understand how it is easy to slip into a negative attitude...waiting for other shoe to drop.

You seem to have a handle on it right now, and you seem to be trying your best to stay positive.

I am sending positive thoughts your way too. ...keep us posted.
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Old 04-30-2012, 05:43 PM   #303 (permalink)
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I am sorry to hear about your brother, Blue. I understand how it is easy to slip into a negative attitude...waiting for other shoe to drop.

You seem to have a handle on it right now, and you seem to be trying your best to stay positive.

I am sending positive thoughts your way too. ...keep us posted.
Thanks buddy, your words are appreciated. I am busy trying to convince my Mum that everything will be ok, whilst trying to deal with my own worries.
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Old 04-30-2012, 05:53 PM   #304 (permalink)
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Hope your ex doesn't stick her nose in it.
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Hope your brother recovers Blue.
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Old 04-30-2012, 06:05 PM   #306 (permalink)
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It's almost tropical. 8 degrees C, 46 degrees F. We had a nice sharp frost on Sunday morning. There will be many gardeners crying. Top temp on Saturday was 5 degrees C, 41 degrees F.
Mmmmm. Wish I was there.

There is a particularly nice pub in Crieff caled the Meadows that I visited. I ended up talking to an old gentleman named Peter there, and we sat for at least four hours and had the most interesting, intense conversation I have ever had with a stranger. He teased me because I don't drink, so I repaid him by beating him soundly at pool.

By closing time we felt like old friends.

Scottish pubs are the best, especially on a cold night.
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Bandit, I passed on the news to her tonight because my brother has a soft spot for her. He knew she was a troubled woman and felt sorry for her. He doesn't know the full details of our separation but he does know how much help she gave to my mum and dad, when my dad was dying. I will leave it as that.

The main reason I told her, was that at the weekend, I found out my brother in law is dying from cancer. He doesn't have long. I was disappointed that I wasn't informed of this. I will not stoop to this level.

Rest assured, I do not need her to get through this and this will not be an opening for her to get back into my life. I have other people I can turn to for support and TAM is part of that.
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Mmmmm. Wish I was there.

There is a particularly nice pub in Crieff caled the Meadows that I visited. I ended up talking to an old gentleman named Peter there, and we sat for at least four hours and had the most interesting, intense conversation I have ever had with a stranger. He teased me because I don't drink, so I repaid him by beating him soundly at pool.

By closing time we felt like old friends.

Scottish pubs are the best, especially on a cold night.
You are absolutely spot on Bandit. Scottish pubs are great, especially when it's mid winter and there's a log fire. You're not a stranger for long in a Scottish pub and there are many tales just waiting to be told by the old timers.

It should be on everyone's "to do before I die" list.
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I do like this. My father has traced part of our ancestry to Scotland. Have you ever heard of Loudoun castle?

Good luck and prayers for your brother and your whole family.

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I do like this. My father has traced part of our ancestry to Scotland. Have you ever heard of Loudoun castle?

Good luck and prayers for your brother and your whole family.

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Yes I have and it is truly beautiful. Unfortunately, it has succumbed to theme park status to ensure it's existence. Very sad. What is your father's link?

Thanks for your words of support.
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Bandit, I passed on the news to her tonight because my brother has a soft spot for her. He knew she was a troubled woman and felt sorry for her. He doesn't know the full details of our separation but he does know how much help she gave to my mum and dad, when my dad was dying. I will leave it as that.

The main reason I told her, was that at the weekend, I found out my brother in law is dying from cancer. He doesn't have long. I was disappointed that I wasn't informed of this. I will not stoop to this level.

Rest assured, I do not need her to get through this and this will not be an opening for her to get back into my life. I have other people I can turn to for support and TAM is part of that.
Forgive me if I was not paying attention to the thread, but is she living with the OM now?
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Old 04-30-2012, 08:00 PM   #313 (permalink)
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Forgive me if I was not paying attention to the thread, but is she living with the OM now?
No, she still has her own flat. To be honest, I couldn't care less
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If by accident you do get lucky, do kiss and tell.

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Old 05-01-2012, 12:29 PM   #315 (permalink)
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That goes for you to bandit.45
Not me brother. Bandit.45 is off the market.... for a long, long time.
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