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Old 05-01-2012, 12:50 PM   #316 (permalink)
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Life has a habit of throwing us curved balls and a "long, long time" may not be as long as you might think bandit.45
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Old 05-01-2012, 12:58 PM   #317 (permalink)
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Life has a habit of throwing us curved balls and a "long, long time" may not be as long as you might think bandit.45
No problem. I'm a good pinch hitter. I'm the Lenny Harris of life batting.
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Old 05-01-2012, 06:41 PM   #318 (permalink)
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My brother is still in hospital - hooked up to the monitoring machines. He is supposed to go to Edinburgh for furthers tests. I am sure he will be ok but you just can't help worrying.

I am trying so hard to not let this drag me down. I realised that it is these times when you really miss having someone to lean on, someone who can share the burden, someone who can give you a little support. I am so glad I have good friends at work and of course TAM.

When my brother gets the all clear, I will tell you about my latest nights out
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My brother is still in hospital - hooked up to the monitoring machines. He is supposed to go to Edinburgh for furthers tests. I am sure he will be ok but you just can't help worrying.

I am trying so hard to not let this drag me down. I realised that it is these times when you really miss having someone to lean on, someone who can share the burden, someone who can give you a little support. I am so glad I have good friends at work and of course TAM.

When my brother gets the all clear, I will tell you about my latest nights out
I know when I had my angioplasty a few weeks back I was scared... really scared, and I didn't have anyone there for me except a couple of old friends of mine who came to see me before they wheeled me in. You need to make your brother know you are there for him and that you care. He's lucky he has you.
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I know when I had my angioplasty a few weeks back I was scared... really scared, and I didn't have anyone there for me except a couple of old friends of mine who came to see me before they wheeled me in. You need to make your brother know you are there for him and that you care. He's lucky he has you.
Just having someone there is nice. Plus afterwards. My surgery wasn't nearly as serious but it was nice to know someone was checking in on me in February... and knew to leave (I react badly to anesthesia - mood killer).
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Just having someone there is nice. Plus afterwards. My surgery wasn't nearly as serious but it was nice to know someone was checking in on me in February... and knew to leave (I react badly to anesthesia - mood killer).
Gawrsh....

Mama, ThatGirl.... so many of us have come down with maladies and have had to have surgeries over the past few months. It makes you realise what a toll all this adultery business takes on a person's health.

We all need to keep supporting each other to get out and exercise and eat right.
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My son just had organic and local food delivered to our door (local being w/in the state of Texas). It won't feed our house for long but it's pretty cool!
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Well, the day has arrived. I must admit, it is a little earlier than I thought it would be.

It started with the "I am sorry for what I have done to you" txt, through the "Finally realised, the mistake I made" and on to the "You were my rock and I have lost you"

Yes, the fog has finally lifted with my W. The problem for her though, is I have moved on. I have no interest in reconciliation. I have pointed this out to her but the txt's keep coming.

Silly woman.
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Well, the day has arrived. I must admit, it is a little earlier than I thought it would be.

It started with the "I am sorry for what I have done to you" txt, through the "Finally realised, the mistake I made" and on to the "You were my rock and I have lost you"

Yes, the fog has finally lifted with my W. The problem for her though, is I have moved on. I have no interest in reconciliation. I have pointed this out to her but the txt's keep coming.

Silly woman.
What does it feel like? I haven't gotten that message from my STBXW yet.

Is it empowering, satisfying, saddening? I want to be prepared when or if I get such a message.
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What does it feel like? I haven't gotten that message from my STBXW yet.

Is it empowering, satisfying, saddening? I want to be prepared when or if I get such a message.
It was saddening. I did not want to hear it. I would have preferred to hear that she was moving on and happy. I got no satisfaction from it at all.

Your emotions will not be measured by the message but by where you are personally.

I am beyond reconciliation.
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It tastes bittersweet.
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Did she tell you this in person, over the phone, e-mail... how?
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Well, the day has arrived. I must admit, it is a little earlier than I thought it would be.

It started with the "I am sorry for what I have done to you" txt, through the "Finally realised, the mistake I made" and on to the "You were my rock and I have lost you"

Yes, the fog has finally lifted with my W. The problem for her though, is I have moved on. I have no interest in reconciliation. I have pointed this out to her but the txt's keep coming.

Silly woman.
She knows she screwed up and lost her one fine Scotsman!
I would never take mine back either. I am at the F U stage and I am moving on not that he'd ever want to come back.
I was looking over our texts, fb chats, and emails and realized that he was kinda nice in the beginning but as the 180 hit he and I detached. I am okay w/ that, I know that there are men out there that will like me, appreciate me, and sex me up!! Yep! I won't have to beg for it!!


I am so glad you are where you are and I hope you can feel good about it too.
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Well, the day has arrived. I must admit, it is a little earlier than I thought it would be.

It started with the "I am sorry for what I have done to you" txt, through the "Finally realised, the mistake I made" and on to the "You were my rock and I have lost you"

Yes, the fog has finally lifted with my W. The problem for her though, is I have moved on. I have no interest in reconciliation. I have pointed this out to her but the txt's keep coming.

Silly woman.

Now why am I not surprised from this, Classic, OutOfTheBlue this is way early but with all honesty very expected, the fact that you were able to disconnect from her emotionally and not feed her emotional needs to any side(by showing complete indifference), coupled with the last message to your son I believe this is causing her to seriously doubt her own motives and what she has done and come to some bitter realizations there, too bad that you already moved on, this is already the 3rd case that I know of, expect some REAL "coronation street" drama coming your way
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Did she tell you this in person, over the phone, e-mail... how?
In person, before her mental breakdown. In the cafe store as I was leaving and she tried to give me her new phone number. I told her no because I already was involved with another woman (present girlfriend). The devastatingly painful expression on her face was unmistakeable. It brought me no joy at all, only sadness.
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