Well, the day has arrived. I must admit, it is a little earlier than I thought it would be.
It started with the "I am sorry for what I have done to you" txt, through the "Finally realised, the mistake I made" and on to the "You were my rock and I have lost you"
Yes, the fog has finally lifted with my W. The problem for her though, is I have moved on. I have no interest in reconciliation. I have pointed this out to her but the txt's keep coming.
Silly woman.
Good for you! Several friends have told me my ex needs to find herself and settle some issues. Only then will she realize what and whom she's lost, but by then it will be too late since I will have moved on. I can't speak for her journey, but I am moving on.
In person, before her mental breakdown. In the cafe store as I was leaving and she tried to give me her new phone number. I told her no because I already was involved with another woman (present girlfriend). The devastatingly painful expression on her face was unmistakeable. It brought me no joy at all, only sadness.
Knowing your story and the awful way you had to find out about her infidelity, I have to say I really don't feel all that sorry for her.
Broken people... why do they have to break the backs of our lives with their baggage?
My Brother is in the Royal Infirmary in Edinburgh awaiting an angiogram, with the likelihood of an angioplasty to follow. The fact that others are bypassing him (pun not intended) at least means he's not considered in immediate danger.
My W's last few txt's to me were quite dramatic. She is opening up in a way that I never expected. However, I am aware that there could be a bit of emotional blackmail in there. One of her txt'x almost sounded like a goodbye. Instead of contacting her, I sent a txt to her dad (the only good one in her family) and simply said to him that his daughter sounded a bit down. He checked in on her the next day and thanked me for telling him.
For those who have followed my thread, I think I mentioned that my doctor prescribed AD's (Prozac) back in January after a particularly difficult time. I have been off them for two months now and I am determined I am not going back on them (let's just say, they didn't agree with my digestive system)
After the bad news about my brother this week and my W throwing a curve ball, I still feel I am coping. The secret to that, I put down to socialising. I mentioned before that it has been the best medicine I have ever had; far better than the AD's. I intend to continue that. My next night out is a week tonight.
Can I just add that I am not being flippant about depression. I have seen how damaging it can be within my own family. If you are depressed, please seek medical help. You cannot just "snap out of" depression.
My Brother is in the Royal Infirmary in Edinburgh awaiting an angiogram, with the likelihood of an angioplasty to follow. The fact that others are bypassing him (pun not intended) at least means he's not considered in immediate danger.
My W's last few txt's to me were quite dramatic. She is opening up in a way that I never expected. However, I am aware that there could be a bit of emotional blackmail in there. One of her txt'x almost sounded like a goodbye. Instead of contacting her, I sent a txt to her dad (the only good one in her family) and simply said to him that his daughter sounded a bit down. He checked in on her the next day and thanked me for telling him.
For those who have followed my thread, I think I mentioned that my doctor prescribed AD's (Prozac) back in January after a particularly difficult time. I have been off them for two months now and I am determined I am not going back on them (let's just say, they didn't agree with my digestive system)
After the bad news about my brother this week and my W throwing a curve ball, I still feel I am coping. The secret to that, I put down to socialising. I mentioned before that it has been the best medicine I have ever had; far better than the AD's. I intend to continue that. My next night out is a week tonight.
Can I just add that I am not being flippant about depression. I have seen how damaging it can be within my own family. If you are depressed, please seek medical help. You cannot just "snap out of" depression.
Do you have an excercise/weight lifting routine? I have found that lifting immediately makes me feel better physically and mentally. So much so that I think its weird. Don't really like the leg work that much though. LOL
My angioplasty went without a hitch, although I was not anywehere near as sick as your brother. They caught mine before there was any heart damage.
The procedure is quite fast and, to be honest, I've been through worse. A dislocated elbow I had back when I was sixteen was far worse than going through angioplasty.
But it is very scary. They'll wrap his leg up in a big gauze cast and poke a huge hole in the femoral artery to run the catheter through. They'll put him into twilight sleep. Honestly the most painful part was the IV needle in the arm. I was aware of what was going on but felt no pain. The whole procedure only took about 45 minutes. They put four stints in four different places.
A couple of days rest and observation and they send you home. He'll have to take Plavix and some other blood thinners for a few weeks. And at the end he'll feel much better.
So just be there for him and let him know you're there. As for your STBXW, ignore her.
Do you have an excercise/weight lifting routine? I have found that lifting immediately makes me feel better physically and mentally. So much so that I think its weird. Don't really like the leg work that much though. LOL
No I don't. At my age and having worked in an office environment for the past ten years, I would only take to weights after a thorough medical. My nephew, who plays rugby union has commented on leg work and how demanding it is. It's more of a cardiovascular workout than a muscle pumping workout.
Having said that, if you exercise to your limits in whatever pursuit, even walking, you will naturally feel better.
My angioplasty went without a hitch, although I was not anywehere near as sick as your brother. They caught mine before there was any heart damage.
The procedure is quite fast and, to be honest, I've been through worse. A dislocated elbow I had back when I was sixteen was far worse than going through angioplasty.
But it is very scary. They'll wrap his leg up in a big gauze cast and poke a huge hole in the femoral artery to run the catheter through. They'll put him into twilight sleep. Honestly the most painful part was the IV needle in the arm. I was aware of what was going on but felt no pain. The whole procedure only took about 45 minutes. They put four stints in four different places.
A couple of days rest and observation and they send you home. He'll have to take Plavix and some other blood thinners for a few weeks. And at the end he'll feel much better.
So just be there for him and let him know you're there. As for your STBXW, ignore her.
Cheers buddy, that puts my mind at rest a little. I mentioned you to my brother today. Bandit is now famous in Scotland
Do you think I'm stupid? As far as the ladies are concerned, you don't exist
You may get away with the charm with the ladies but I'm on to you. Stay in your own territory or Blue will need to get his own kilt on (minus the swollen bits) and go to war.
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