11-29-2011, 12:26 AM
Join Date: Nov 2009
| | Re: Taking back some power from wife
Originally Posted by JAYBLACK973
It is 6 months now that my Wife and I have been separated. I no longer have feelings of anger or resentment towards her, i just feel at peace. I stopped arguing with her via text, email or verbally over the phone. I feel like she has taken all the power and decision making away from me and i need to reclaim my self respect. She held on to things and was unable to forgive me for any hurt that i may have caused her. She still brings up things from 5 or 6 years ago. I changed my car insurance because she chose to move to Delaware and we lived in Jersey. I informed the insurance company that she lives in another state and they sent her a letter stating that her car needs to be registered in Jersey or she would have to get everything changed over to her new address. She called and asked me why i told the insurance company she lived in another state. Needless to say, they cancelled her insurance today. Recently my health insurance had open enrollment and i told my wife if she needs the insurance then she needs to fax a copy of our marriage certificate to them but she didn't. The deadline has come and gone, now she has no health or auto insurance. Its funny but i don't feel bad about it. I've tried so very hard to make things work and to just open up dialogue between us but she is just unwilling to forgive or change. I told her that on January second we will talk. That may very well be the day i am going forward with the divorce. I feel like i'm taking back some power and not letting her dictate how everything will go in this process. For the longest time i felt like she had all the power and i was just on a ride that i couldn't get off of.
I know its a lousy situation - but I think you've done the right things. Good for you!
"They" think they have all of this power over us - but sooner or later - real life (insurance, healthcare!) comes crashing down.
Glad to see you taking a stand. Good luck with whatever YOU decide comes next.
“Fighting for peace is like screwing for virginity!" - Carlin