Ah. Don't you just love body modification?
Gastric bypass for a fat woman is like taking a magic pill that makes them desireable. They don't have to do any work to make themselves desireable, they just go in, get the surgery and YAY! guys want them!
Except, the insecurities are still there. Otherwise, why would all that male attention even matter to them?
The women who I have known who got gastric bypass surgery all left their husbands. The second they got attention from guys that were more attractive than anyone that every paid them any attention before, they dumped the guys who DID love them.
According to some statistics out there, marriages where one obese person gets bariatric surgery end in divorce within two years for about 80-85% of them.
And guess what @kesta86
: the husband in every one of those marriages that I saw fall apart had the exact same attitude you do. Their wives hung on because they thought they had no options, and a lousy man was better than no man. The men professed their willingness to change to "get them back". But, that was no change at all. The women already believed that their husbands thought they were sticking it out with them for the same reasons they were. Lack of options. Of course those silly men were going to try to keep them now that they were HOT! but why should they settle that they don't have to?
The only way your wife would even be able to believe that you are capable of changing is if you did something you have NEVER done before. Something so out of character that it literally shocks her and makes her take notice. She will flat out ignore the same old same old, grovely BS.
Personally, I would expose her affair and divorce her. Tell her that she has decided to be someone that you simply have NO desire to have any association with. Tell her that you wouldn't be caught dead calling someone who betrays her husband like she has a "best friend".
Tell her that you were obviously wrong about her, that she must never have been such a great and moral person after all.
Or, keep groveling amd being the "better person". She is pretty hot nowadays, after all, quite the catch. Apparently she was not hot enough for you to listen to her back when you thought you were the best she could get, but hey, you didn't know there was a problem up until a couple weeks ago, right? . So hey, try it. Wait around and see how it works out for you.
If you don't think that she will look back at this at some point and detest her own deception, then you need to wake up. She is headed for an emotional rollercoaster that she has absolutely no experience with, and it will likely not end well for her. If you are serious about changing, then do something other than passively watch your wife become someone that she will detest.
Stand up and grow a pair. Posted via Mobile Device