Re: I've raised my kids -now divorce is making me share...
So if he works all the time, who will be watching the kids? You might consider asking for right-of-first refusal in any custody arrangement so that if the kids will be with anyone other than him, you get the right to keep them first, before they go to a sitter or other family member. If he's using a sitter, suggest it as a way to save childcare expenses.
I don't think he's thought the custody issue through, which is why so many are suggesting you get an attorney involved. Your kids are young and you are not ready to let go, and that is totally understandable. It hurts.
In youth it was a way I had, to do my best to please, And change, with every passing lad to suit his theories.
But now I know the things I know, and do the things I do; And if you do not like me so, To hell, my love, with you! --Dorothy Parker