Re: Mixed signals and false starts
I actually remember the moment when it faded. It was 6 months post D and I was sitting on the couch and realized that I was no longer unhappy, and had moved to being content with my life. It took a couple more months after that to be back to my old happy self. What I did was worked out a lot (this is a MUST), spent a lot of time talking with friends and family, travelled a bit, got more involved in hobbies and spent more time going to religious services (for the social aspect). I dated a little then too, but I wasn't ready for it and don't think I was that fun to date.
I'd recommend you spend this time doing whatever it was that you liked to do before you were married. Especially, if you gave something during the marriage. If you're looking to get laid but don't want commitment, you can always try hooking up with your single female friends. It's surprisingly quite easy to do if you just approach them with the idea.