Re: Mixed signals and false starts
If you are looking for the perfect time to move on, there is no such thing. Also don't look for a relationship, but that doesn't mean you can't have a little adult fun. Can you do better than your STBX? The answer is yes, all you have to do is find someone who loves and is committed to you. I get the impression she was a pretty needy person and checked out when she felt you did not have her on a high enough pedestal. Take the time to separate as much as you can now. The health insurance should have been done last fall when you were in an open season, still I would check with HR and see if there is an exception for change of status. The other possibility is, when will the divorce be official? Some states have a year waiting period, if that is the case, then continue until you get to the next open season.
You need to understand that you are going to be riding these roller coaster of emotions for awhile, so there will be good days and bad days. The less contact, the sooner you separate shared things, the quicker you will be ready to move on with life. Don't follow her facebook, exclude her from your postings. You need to be so busy with your life that you don't have time to think about hers.