Re: Low day
I'm not divorcing- far from it, I hope- but there have been a handful of times in my marriage that I called my parents and begged them to either convince me my husband was right or convince him he was wrong.
I almost never did this, reserving it only for matters I thought were more important than his happiness. For example, the time I suspected he had melanoma, he didn't want to go to the dermatologist, and I wanted him to, and I told my parents to talk some sense into him. My line of thinking was, "What is more important, my marriage or his life?"
The only other instance I can remember was a time, in the first few months of our marriage, that he wanted me to go camping with him whilst I was ill. I was NOT used to being treated with anything other than the most delicate of kid gloves when I was ill, and thought his request was disrespectful to a level bordering on abuse. When my parents took his side, I went on the camping trip, and when I didn't get pneumonia and die, I apologized to him for not trusting him.
I only did this when I felt cornered. I brought them into it because I knew I was the more submissive, younger, less experienced partner in the relationship and I couldn't settle the dispute through expertise alone. When I did get my parents involved, I did so hoping sheer numbers could convince my husband. Three against one. I hate pitting other people against my husband, so I have to have a very good reason to potentially make an "enemy" out of my soul mate. It's really very odd that he, as the man and traditionally dominant partner, would feel so powerless against you that he felt the need to constantly involve a third party. Were you much older than he was? Did you make more money?
Last edited by EllaSuaveterre; 12-11-2016 at 04:51 AM.