Well, I'm an idiot.
Hi All. SO, I have posted a couple times regarding my separation. We have been separated 7 weeks and he's tried to blame me for it even though he's the one who made the final decision and without any try of reconciliation. Every single person said..there's someone else. And I believed him when he said there wasn't. I'm an idiot.
I received a little nugget of information yesterday that gave me all the info I needed. A friend of mine's husband worked very briefly for the same company as stbxh (one week then got a better job offer). They are both maintenance supers for apartment complexes. Well, friend's husband had to shadow someone else (stbxh's counterpart at the other property) and as they are on their way to stbxh's property the guy tell's friend's husband, "When you get there, don't let this guy get to you because he's an ahole. He's got problems, man. Running around on his wife with people at the property, hates his life, always looking for something to argue about." Now, friend's husband had no clue the guy was stbxh until he saw a picture on facebook.
So, really, that's all I needed to know. It's heartbreaking because this was my best friend. The pull away and turn into a stranger...and so cold... well, it's been so hurtful. When I confronted him with the info (I texted him asking if I needed to get tested for stds or did he use protection) he made sure to let me know that he'd only been with someone "the day after you and I were last together". I don't know how someone can just...change. I hate this.