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post #16 of 21 (permalink) Old 12-23-2016, 12:05 PM Thread Starter
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How well are you able to discuss and compromise with your STBX? After I filed we were civil so I just asked what she wanted to take at that time and what she needed me to temporarily store in my house, then I helped her move her crap out of my place. Do you think your STBX is going to be easy to deal with or a challenge, because there are different ways to deal with things depending on how you think she'll act.



Also, if you start buying things and it's after you filed for D, she will likely say that you used your share of the assets instead of the communal assets for those purchases.


We could discuss everything just fine. I onlyndont because I intend to ask for spousal support, not getting into that in this thread but she will stop being so easy to work with when we get to that topic.

I'm going to buy a used kitchen table today possibly from a co worker. Small and cheap will put in the garage. I'm not looking for nice stuff just great deals and with 6 months until the actual split I should be able to find great deals on everything. I'm not going to go to the store and buy an entire new kitchen. I'm just after used furniture so I have the time to search it out. Next up is a bed though as she is going to move ours to another room.


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We have enough furniture and household items to stock two decent sized houses .
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I wouldn't buy anything too nice, and I'd probably keep whatever I did buy in storage (except, of course, for anything you need to buy as a result of the in-house separation).


Gus what are your thoughts on buying a mattress. I am considering two options.

1) buy a mattress for the master bedroom I woukd actually want. This is the more expensive option and it will have to go on a credit card.

2) buy a twin mattress that I will need when we actually have separate houses for my son and just use it for me until then. This also would be going on a credit card but is much cheaper. In the end I buy the big mattress by summer this route anyway.

I was going to consult the attorney but she's moving her bed today and that appointment isn't until the 5th.


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Gus what are your thoughts on buying a mattress. I am considering two options.

1) buy a mattress for the master bedroom I woukd actually want. This is the more expensive option and it will have to go on a credit card.

2) buy a twin mattress that I will need when we actually have separate houses for my son and just use it for me until then. This also would be going on a credit card but is much cheaper. In the end I buy the big mattress by summer this route anyway.

I was going to consult the attorney but she's moving her bed today and that appointment isn't until the 5th.
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Re: pre-D buying your own set of household goods and/or furniture

@Tillaan,

As I understand it, she is removing the bed from the "master bedroom" and moving it to another bedroom, and thus you'd have nothing to sleep on in the master bedroom, right? Why not get something like a futon? That way, you'd have something sleep on now, and when you move, you'd have a couch or "guest bed" or bed for your son (depending on how you feel like using the futon).

I think it's reasonable for you to have some sort of bed for the next 6 months, and regarding division of assets, if you paid for it from your funds and there's a "she took this bed I took that bed" kind of split, I think that is reasonable. In the end the judge just wants both parties to basically have half of everything.


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Re: pre-D buying your own set of household goods and/or furniture

I've got the boys beds covered I have a bunkbed that is mine from pre-marriage. It's only short one twin mattress right now as the baby sleeps in one of those toddler beds currently.

I just looked around online I can grab a twin mattress for like $120 and throw that on the floor.


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