Re: pre-D buying your own set of household goods and/or furniture
I bought a condo and furnished it. That was fair as she kept the house and existing furnishings, except for a few items. Those came from joint assets, so mine should, too. We did discuss all this - I didn't act behind her back. Just as well I bought all that I did, when I did, as the divorce took forever; I bought and lived in three different homes (four, if you count the RV I lived in full time while traveling for work) during the time it took to actually divorce.
Love is an ideal thing; marriage is a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
CELIBACY IS NOT HEREDITARY.