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Has anyone else on here chosen legal separation instead of divorced?

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#1 ·
I chose this option with STBXH blessing because I needed the medical and dental insurance. I haven't worked in over 22 years. Until I get back on my feet, this was the option that worked best. My options to get insurance on my own were awful. And, cobra was ridiculously expensive. If it wasn't for that, I certainly would have opted for divorce.

How is it working out for you? Any regrets with this option? My attorney is currently working on the paperwork for legal separation and he will be served soon.
 
#2 ·
I've always heard of it, but alas, I never got to use it as there is no such thing under the Texas Family Code!

Best of luck to you!
 
#4 ·
Hi OP

My H and I (separated) are going to pursue a legal separation rather than divorce at this stage. We have not made this decision for financial reasons but rather that I don't think either of us are comfortable with saying the word "divorced" yet.

I've been called an "idiot" over this many times.

I don't know how I feel about it, if its going to work, or what is going to happen when he meets someone else and wants to get remarried - but for now it's what is on the cards.
 
#5 ·
I wish my state had this option. I also don't want to leave my wife without health insurance. She is in a similar situation to you after a 20 year marriage. At the same time she has treated me terribly, evicting me with a trumped up PFA. Right now I can't do anything about the other financial issues, yet I don't want to escalate the cruelty by doing things that will hurt her badly. Glad you can take advantage of that option and start your new lives with some clear boundaries.
 
#7 · (Edited)
This is ok if neither of you wants to met someone else, but if you do, you need to know that many who are looking for a serious relationship/marriage will not want to date a married person, especially one who wont get divorced so that they can marry. If you are both happy to remain single, then thats fine.
 
#8 ·
It's almost a done deal, so no more thinking about it. We're just waiting for it to be finalized. We've both signed. I have zero interest in dating someone. The thought is scary. He says he isn't interested, either. If at any point he wants to remarry, I have no problem divorcing him. It would be rotten of me not to.
 
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We are doing a legal separation with a mediator, since our state requires one year separation prior to filing for a no-fault divorce. But we'll be creating our entire divorce plan via the legal separation so that the divorce is basically just a matter of filing the paperwork at the "one year and one day" mark and waiting for a judge to sign off on it.

We're not doing it for insurance reasons though, since he is covered by his job while the kids and I are covered on mine.
 
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