10-15-2007, 07:27 AM
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Denver, CO/
| | Is it too late?
My husband and I have been seperated since 2/06. It has gotten very ugly.
We've both said some awful and hurtful things to each other. We have a 4yr. old daughter. Recently he filed the petition for divorce. I responded and we've since gone to the initial status conference which got very heated. We are now awaiting mediation. He has a lawyer I don't. The conference made me realize just how silly this whole thing is. We are not really fighting over anything. There is no property. We agree on joint custody and he has visitation. We are not agreeing on child support but based on our earnings and the formula they use in court I've realized he is paying the standard unless child care is needed.
Reading over the postings here and on other sites I've realized we are about to divorce over hurt feelings, ego and cultural differences (he's from Jamaica) I called him last night and said (this was very difficult to do) I think our marriage can be fixed with counseling. He flat out refused which was no surprised. He basically said he did not need to change anything but I did.
This is how our marriage was also. He never felt ever in the wrong. I really need a professional to hear him. I need someone to tell him "your not perfect." I need him to understand that our daughter deserves to have her parents together and not apart over b.s.
I plan on bringing all this up in mediation and hope the court will order counseling. If they don't I'm not sure what the next step will be. Does anyone have any advice for me?