Re: Logic and Emotions
I'll share my emotional transitions, but mine might be accelerated and intense because she kicked me out of the house with a trumped up restraining order, which has led to a long period of no contact. When this first went down I was caught up in overwhelming anger and wanted my spouse to have terrible things happen to her, even thinking in very specific ways that I'd like to see her get physically hurt to keep her from doing some of the things she loves to do. At this stage I would also cycle to feeling horribly guilty for those thoughts, and also longing for reconciliation.
A couple of months later, I'm becoming more resigned, but I'm also watching her life fall apart in very sad ways. The parenting issues we always disagreed about have gotten worse since I've left and she is making very irrational choices that all of the experts are urging her not to do (there are scores or therapists, doctors, lawyers etc. involved now). Now that I'm removed from the situation I can see how sick and confused she is and I mostly feel sorry for her. I'm understanding why are marriage failed now that I'm not still trying to battle the irrationality constantly.
I'm also realizing that I still care about her, but the romantic feelings are slipping away gradually. Still not 100%, but close. She has hurt me too badly for that kind of love to stick with me, but I still care for her the way I do for my children who are also suffering now tremendously. So yes, from my experience I would suggest that your anger will turn into something different. Without knowing your story it's hard to conjecture what emotions and insights might come next.
I wish I can tell you good ways to cope with this progression away from anger. I've been to support groups, talked it over to death with my mother, sister and other family members. Nothing made me feel good as I was going through it. Just keep living and be open to new revelations about yourself and your past relationship that will come with time.