Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: Finger Lakes NY
Re: Well I finally did it
Paperwork is done! Next step, filing at the county courthouse. That might take a while since I'm currently reliant on others for transportation. My dad is the one who usually helps me out but he can't drive right now either. And my sister is too busy. Oh well, shouldn't realistically be more than 2-3 weeks. I might even wait until I get my income tax refund so I won't have to dip into savings for the various legal fees.
I do feel a little bad though. I found out totally by accident that H IS in the States right now - because his mother is dying. My cousin is a nurse in the nursing home he's put her in, and she recognized him when he visited her Monday. Dropping a court order on him right now seems a little cruel. Apparently his mother only has a few more months to live. She has lung cancer just like FIL weirdly enough although maybe not since they both smoked weed and unfiltered, hand rolled cigarettes.
Pisses me off though. He never left his fathers side when he was dying. Even took 3 months family leave. Now it would appear he is doing the same for his mother. And yet 13 years ago when they thought I was terminally ill and gave me only 6-12 months to live, he said he couldn't afford to miss work, dumped me on my parents, and disappeared.
Sometimes I really wonder if he ever really cared about me at all. I've come to the point where I truly don't believe he did ever love me.
The road goes ever ever on, down from the door where it began... JRR Tolkien