Re: Wife moved out (she needs space but says she loves me?)
I have. My ex walked out (actually snuck out) on me and 5 kids. Said he loved me, I was the best thing that ever happened to him, but he didn't want to "do this" (meaning be married) anymore. He also did not want a divorce. Did not want the hassle of having to GET divorced, or "getting the court involved".
It may have been a midlife crisis.... he was a prime candidate for one. He rented an apartment on the beach, began dating immediately, called me now and then to whine about being lonely, or sorry, or whatever....
We'd been together for 23 years. It was heartbreaking for me. But I was also p*ssed. And I had kids who needed a normal, sane parent.
It's been 11 years now. I've remarried and life is wonderful. He recently remarried, but I cannot figure out why. They don't live together, he still lives in that apartment on the beach and I can't see that he has anything positive to bring to a marriage.... it's weird. But it's not my problem, and I lose no sleep over it.
So yes, I've been there. It sucks at first. I did all those things I advised you to do to start moving forward. Separating literally yourself from the marriage. It gets better, it gets easier. It all takes time.
Plan for the worst (get all the divorce info you can) and hope for the best.....there's no telling what the future will bring. Ya know, she MAY come around if she thinks you are actually divorcing her. But don't threaten it if you're not going to do it. And she may come around in a few years, finding out that y'all really did have a good thing and she wants that back. By then, you may have moved on and not want her any more. Or you may lose all respect for someone who just walks out on you.
But really, right now, take care of yourself. Do positive things for YOU. Stop doing anything for her.