Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: The Frozen North
Re: Wife moved out (she needs space but says she loves me?)
Your wife is sending out a lot of signals, and you are picking up several. This is my 2cents; Have you tried romance? She is living apart from you, and you are treating this like the new normal. I seriously recommend dating your wife. Take her to dinner, without the kid. Go to movies, dancing, art galleries, whatever pushes the two of you together. She needs to find a new image of you in her head, and you need to go from husband, representing some confusion in her life, to lover. My wife and I were separated for 7 months. Our problem was infidelity on my part. By all standards we should have been long divorced by now, but I was not willing to let go of something good. I replaced her anger with love, and changed my image from philanderer to lover. We went out for coffee almost every night, we talked endlessly, we dated and dated. I think that we saw every movie released that year. We went to every romantic restaurant in town. I knew if I wanted us back, I would have to change her perception, so that the old marriage was gone, and I was the new, if familiar, lover.
Canada 75, start by asking her out. It works.