Re: Wife moved out (she needs space but says she loves me?)
Separate the bank accounts. Separate the finances. Start figuring it as if you are permanently separated. When a person moves out of a marriage, they do so with the risk of not receiving any more financial support, unless ordered by the courts. Basically, since she moved out she should be paying her own way. You pay your home bills, she pays hers. Since some bills are probably for both of you such as insurance and phone...whoever is the payer should get half the money from the other. She should pay her own way now. You are not living as a couple, she doesn't want to be a couple, you shouldn't mingle the money as a couple. Time to think about UNcoupling.
Pack up her stuff at the house.....you can store it in the garage or offer it to her, but you don't have to live as if she is going to walk back in at any minute. (I would physically pack it up and take it to her. Tell her that she forgot a few things. Not to be mean, but to not LIVE with all her stuff when she doesn't want to live there) *Actually, on second thought....I'd just pack it all up (and by pack it up I mean dump it in boxes and trash bags) and store it in the garage and not say anything to her. You don't have to explain things anymore. When she sees that you've changed things, you just shrug and say that she doesn't live here now.
I painted a huge mural on my bedroom wall when my ex walked out. He asked about it once and I told him, you don't live here so I'm just doing it how I want. Period. Nothing he could say about that.
Pack up wedding pictures, couple pictures (you can put a few in son's room) , knick knacks, anything with flowers on it, etc.... you can put a few in son's room.
Rearrange the furniture... make it to your liking. It's more about taking control of what you can. Making the space YOURS.
Paint the bedroom in your favorite color. Get new bedding if you can. Pack away all her toiletries and hair stuff. USE her half of the closet, even if you just spread your clothes out.
See an attorney, find out what the deal is regarding divorce, separation, child visitation, custody, etc.... do your homework so at least you are prepared mentally.
The point is.... that since she moved out, you should make your place YOURS. Not to be mean, but it does send a message to her that you are not pining away, waiting with baited breath for her to come home. Even if you are.... you have to start thinking like a single dad who shares custody.
Last edited by SunnyT; 01-14-2017 at 10:56 PM.