Re: I just can't understand...
Some people do things that you will find inexplicable, and you will never have an answer of why. Things like this. They are simply wired differently; they lack empathy and there hearts are hard.
If he would do this to his children, they are better off without him in their life. If you try to force it (them spending time with their father), he might play along for a little while, but he would eventually drift out of their life, and drag it out, making it more painful for them. The only thing you can do is love them enough for two parents, and make sure they know that his disappearance is his failing, not theirs, and that they ARE lovable. Support them the best that you can. If you have family nearby, you may wish to encourage them to become more active in your children's lives, so they know that lots of people love them, not just mom.
~Happily un-married since December 9, 2013~