Join Date: Feb 2016
Location: North Coast Nationalist-burg, U.S.A.
Re: Family fell apart, but no end to drama in sight
You are in an untenable situation.
There is no wiggle room, no hope on the horizon. Hope, as far as I can see lives in Canada.
Your marriage is toast.
Your children are toast. Their situation is tragic. Your [well meaning] hands are tied. Tied by your wife and tied by the courts, the Law. Your kids resent you. Resent life. Bitter kids.
Your options are toast. You have one option--->Make yourself happy. Cut all ties with your family.
File for divorce, if you have not already.
Move out of state. Few on this site, TAM will agree on this move. Let her..and you go bankrupt. It is only money. Eventually, you will have to pay something. Live frugally, save some money for when the financial hammer strikes you.
Send your wife a check every month. The amount? Something fair, something affordable. They cannot quite say you totally abandoned them. You are sending them money. Keep your cancelled checks for proof.
Your kids? They are presently "toast". When they move out of the house you can reconnect and help them, if you choose, and if they want a dad.
Live for you. No one else will.
Life can be hard.
This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.
The Lion in Winter. Invictus..By Will, Shall... Saved from harm by my friends.