Re: Family fell apart, but no end to drama in sight
Satya, Yes. I don't think the dating legally matters at this point in my state once you are separated. However the child welfare angle is extremely relevant. Especially if she is leaving the children home alone to make her rendezvous.
I am now realizing how deep my wife's delusions are. She thinks she can make it all work on her 18K a year and maybe a couple of grand a month from me? She thinks she can find a decent man who will walk into her mess, at her age?
I now think that the phone answering hoover maneuver she is employing is just fishing for an ego boost for herself. She thinks it will hurt me more and elevate her status if she knows I'm still pining for her while she's "moving on with her life" with her dating scene. I think she's very afraid that I might not be holding on anymore, and because of the restraining order, she doesn't really know. It's going to be quite the blow to her when those divorce papers come. I'm sure she thought I would try to hold on and not file.
I'm actually really glad now that she got the restraining order and things went down the way they did. Other than the time away from my kids it has actually been positive in many respects. Much better than if I had gotten a separate apartment as she was demanding. She would have just made me subservient and I would have hung on longer and been abused by her more. I really am completely over her now, but I don't think that deep down she is really over me. She has a very difficult time ahead of her. It's sad, but it's what she chose.
For me, I think I'll be fine now. If she keeps the kids and I just visit, I might try to find someone new. However, if the crap really hits the fan, and I have to take over primary custody, I'll probably just focus on that as best I can until they are older. They need more from their parents than they are currently getting.