12-18-2011, 07:48 AM
Join Date: Apr 2011
| | having holiday together with ex in laws
Funny story.... We are off to see his inlaws for a couple of weeks and to play happy families.
I agreed as his parents are very nice, but I hate staying in their house but there has never been an option to stay elsewhere, and he refuses to understand why I feel crowded in their house with our 4 children and them being elderly and sick.
As they are both sick, I agreed to go and take my children, as I think they need to see g/parents and there may not be many chances. Also no way was I staying home for Xmas with no children. (we have to travel interstate)
We have lived separetely for 8 months and have seen a counsellor, but currently he has too much else on his mind to continue. Once our house is sold it would help but we still haven't decided to buy one or 2 houses with the proceeds!!
He has 2 children from a previous, whom I brought up, and as they are both teenage girls, another problem all together.
I was annoyed when his mother asked about sleeping arrangements he said we would share with no consulting me. He told me about the call afterwards.
He seems to want me back, but these things show he has not changed. He wants the children, housekeeper and nanny more than a wife, though I am sure he has missed someone to sleep with. Probably why he wants to share a room.... Neither of us have a new partner and we have tried to keep it al friendly for the kids and if we do get back together again.
I am still confused as apart from moving out we have no arrangements in place. He gives me no money but the business pays some of my bills. He sees the kids most weekends, but only if it suits both of us, otherwise he doesn't.
So anyway I just thought I would share my holiday plans and maybe get a few thoughts to help me / us through these 2 weeks would be helpful....