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Old 04-22-2012, 09:53 AM   #91 (permalink)
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Weird day today.. He's in work, daughter gone out for the day with relatives. So I'm on my own!! I've Loved it!! I'm sure it will be different when I've had to hand my darling girl over to her dad for the weekend, but I can stand my own company, so it's a start! Isn't it??
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Old 04-23-2012, 02:35 PM   #92 (permalink)
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How come you can have a good day followed by a dire one?
From a relative high to a awful crappy low...

Ugh!!
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Old 04-23-2012, 04:29 PM   #93 (permalink)
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How come you can have a good day followed by a dire one?
From a relative high to a awful crappy low...

Ugh!!
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Good question. Are you on any anti depressants? I just started today. It will take at least a few weeks to get into my system, but I'm hoping my feelings will be more stable once they do.
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Good question. Are you on any anti depressants? I just started today. It will take at least a few weeks to get into my system, but I'm hoping my feelings will be more stable once they do.
Ironically came off them just about a month before d day!! Ha! Was put on them for PND after my daughter was born. Was a big step to come off them, don't really want to go back on them. I personally don't think they did me any favors. Was on Peroxatine. I'll be ok I suppose, got to ride it out. Think it was a trigger at work. Hard when both areas of your life suck at the same time.. MEH (
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Old 04-23-2012, 05:42 PM   #95 (permalink)
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Old 04-25-2012, 08:10 AM   #96 (permalink)
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Having the worst, crappy day at work. Been verbally abused, threatened and spat at by a customer. I was fine until about half an hour later and I realized I have no one to call. Normally I would call STBHX and just tell him, sound off, or just get it off my chest. But there is no-one I can do that with now!!

So now I am sat in my office out the back, sniveling like a baby. I feel so alone right now. I also feel like I am being punished for something.. I just want some good times for a change...

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Sorry SO@40. {{{hugs}}} People can be so mean. Hope your day gets better. You can always PM me when you have no one to call. I'll be happy to listen
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Ok... I think I might be losing it...
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I'm an idiot...

I know I'm an idiot... I'm a needy, desperate, idiot with no self respect & I deserve everything I get
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I'm an idiot...

I know I'm an idiot... I'm a needy, desperate, idiot with no self respect & I deserve everything I get
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I take it you made contact.
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Old 05-09-2012, 06:20 PM   #102 (permalink)
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Can't help with contact when he refuses to move out..

No.. Contact I can cope with (or obviously not)

NO! I MAKE A PASS AT HIM!! Which he rejects!!

I AM SUCH A F'IN IDIOT... WHY?WHY? WHY?
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40, everyone makes mistakes its ok, just move forward. i threw myself at ex like everyday for months before he walked out and 90% of the time he rejected me. i even slept with him one time after he left and felt like such a piece of poop for it. dont beat yourself up you are only human and it was a mistake
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Please listen to unsure, she's right. We all make these mistakes. I have done the same thing on more than one occasion. I don't typically confess it here because I feel like you guys are all so strong and I feel weak and needy. I have slept with my husband more than once since he left me. THERE I SAID IT. I wish he had turned me down because after the fact I felt like the trashy other woman. We are all human and we sometimes can't help doing regretful things. We want to prove they still want us or they care. There are a multitude of reasons. Please just shake it off as a moment of weakness. Forgive yourself and move on.
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Please listen to unsure, she's right. We all make these mistakes. I have done the same thing on more than one occasion. I don't typically confess it here because I feel like you guys are all so strong and I feel weak and needy. I have slept with my husband more than once since he left me. THERE I SAID IT. I wish he had turned me down because after the fact I felt like the trashy other woman. We are all human and we sometimes can't help doing regretful things. We want to prove they still want us or they care. There are a multitude of reasons. Please just shake it off as a moment of weakness. Forgive yourself and move on.
More like stronger with rough moments. Several of us that are getting to the other side still experience a bump in the road at times. It's normal to have a moment of hope/weakness and wanting to take a chance.

That said, if your actions are counterproductive to progress and not reciprocated, it's time to change the course of action(s).
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