Re: How can I avoid being a doormat?
Stop trying to push a rope.
Say this simple statement:
"Wife, you have indicated you wanted to move on. So from this point forward, I will be focusing on me, and working hard on granting what you want."
Then focus on you. Do not initiate dialogue with her. Do not show her affection. Go do hobbies at night. See her the least amount possible. Do not tell her what you are doing.
When she pesters you about the relationship, shake your head and say:
"Discussing how to improve a relationship is for people who both want to be in a relationship, which is exactly what you said you didn't want."
Then go about your business.
In other words, you are working on detaching and becoming your own man again until she commits to working on the marriage and not chatting with other men online.
"Our ability to feel joy is directly related to how much pain we are willing to feel." - Mavash.
"The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for." - Bob Marley