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post #16 of 21 (permalink) Old 02-20-2017, 04:11 PM Thread Starter
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All of you are right. My foolish, shattered heart wants to believe that it isn't happening. But it is. It hurts so bad, and I feel like the bottom has fallen out of my world. I emailed a few lawyers, and I am going to work out a plan this week while my son is away, including contacting my landlord to re-sign my lease by myself, open a separate bank account, and change all the locks. I have a business trip in two weeks, and my Mom has agreed to come stay at my house and take care of my son. I hate this. And I am devastated that he is throwing our family away. My Dad cheated on both my mother and my stepmom and it effected me greatly. I asked my husband again and again over the course of our ten years that if he ever developed feelings for another person to be honest and leave me. His choice to hurt me like this is a twist of an old, rusty knife that has long been a key pain point for me.

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All of you are right. My foolish, shattered heart wants to believe that it isn't happening. But it is. It hurts so bad, and I feel like the bottom has fallen out of my world. I emailed a few lawyers, and I am going to work out a plan this week while my son is away, including contacting my landlord to re-sign my lease by myself, open a separate bank account, and change all the locks. I have a business trip in two weeks, and my Mom has agreed to come stay at my house and take care of my son. I hate this. And I am devastated that he is throwing our family away. My Dad cheated on both my mother and my stepmom and it effected me greatly. I asked my husband again and again over the course of our ten years that if he ever developed feelings for another person to be honest and leave me. His choice to hurt me like this is a twist of an old, rusty knife that has long been a key pain point for me.
I know it sucks and it hurts, @kaleknits, but you will seriously thank yourself for being so proactive. You'll have time to grieve in your own way, and you should allow yourself to do so. Then, dust yourself off and carry on.

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Document everything. Go for full custody. Do not encourage him to visit. Instead tell him you are looking for a man and father that doesn't think with his Johnson. Tell him to make all contacts through your lawyers. Your luck he he did this now instead of later. Hopefully, you will find someone new soon and the both of you can leave him in your rear view mirror. Your husband is useless, wasted space. Speaking as a father.


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I'm sorry this has happened to you. Consult with a lawyer and stay under her/his wing. Fortunately, as a wronged female, the court will look more favorably on you than your husband.
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Sorry.

Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."

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Hope you and your son are well. Sorry you are going through this.
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