She is very convincing that its not over, there is nobody else, and this is just a temporary thing.
The 180 states that you should believe nothing that your wife says and only half of what she does. There has never been a cheating wife who told the truth when her husband asked if there was another man.
If your 2 year-old kid has chocolate all over his face, but denies eating any cookies, do you believe him? Or do you put more stock into the evidence of the chocolate? Check her email, Facebook, cell phone, and credit card records. If there's no evidence there, then you can put more stock into her claims of just being bored.
Unbelievable. She will be here in 2 days, wondering how to play it. I read the 180 from elegirl post, and I guess thats the way to go.
I think the 180 is a good suggestion. Also, you could bump up the pressure. Nothing portrays weakness like a man who is willing to wait forever and be a woman's backup plan.
If your wife wants to be independent, let her be independent. Cut off her credit cards/checking account/cell phone. Let her pay her own way in the world. She may find the freedom of being a receptionist thousands of miles from home to be more inconvenient when her husband stops making her car payment. Freedom doesn't have quite the same appeal when it means taking the bus.
Also, get a lawyer ASAP. You have a great case for primary custody of your child. Don't squander it.
And you are not, under any circumstances, to buy your wife a Christmas present worth more than a Hallmark card. Seriously.