Currently my income pays for everything and she is building a new Career which pays OK and is set to increase to a much higher level over the next few years. I feel like her having the entire contents of the house and a large deposit possible 6 figures to put down on a new house that Alimony is not really fair or needed as she will have lowish mortgage payment and a fully furnished house with lots of nice expensive items she picked and I paid for.
I know its law and to protect etc but for me Alimony seems so unfair its like you don't want me but you want me to maintain your lifestyle and to continue to use my resources maybe i am just bitter.
I don't know how the courts tend to go on alimony where you live. What seems fair to me, given just the tiny bits you've posted here, would be short term alimony to allow her to get on her feet. The distribution of current assets might be fair at 50/50, but then again maybe not.
Let's assume you weren't getting divorced. Her income would go up nicely over the next few years. Your lifestyle would go up quite a bit as a result. You two are living ok on your income primarily right now, and you've established a nice home and some financial assets. So her increased income would be gravy on top, allowing some luxuries or perhaps savings towards and early retirement.
But since you are getting divorced, you should not suffer a large decrease in quality of life at the expense of her having a nice quality of life. That is, her income is going to go up nicely. In a few years then, she should not be set up with a nice furnished home and a nice financial situation at your expense.
I think some short term sacrifice on your part so that she doesn't live a much lower lifestyle is ok. Not that you should have equal lifestyles, but she shouldn't be moving to a trailer while you are staying in a nice house with luxuries. And then in the long term you should both have lifestyles commensurate with your own achievements. If I understand correctly, you've been married 12 years? This does not entitle either one of you to live off of the labors of the other forever.
I would look at the property settlement and alimony as a package. You provided her with financial support over a number of yeas so that she could pursue her desired career. She benefited from your generosity. Might she argue you benefited from her giving up some of her earning potential to raise the kids or to enable you to work your career? You could offer a bit more assets up front and not pay any alimony. Or you could be harsh on the assets now and offer some decreasing alimony over the next few years as her income will go up.
Alimony can be evil, and I would be cautious about it. For me, alimony would have been nuclear war, so I understand your feelings on it!