Sorry, there is a long prologue to my question
So my stbxh had this colleague/superior/friend. She is in her mid 40s, has kids etc. When we first got married, my ex told me how a few years ago she went through a divorce and he helped her financially at the time. She was not at our wedding - i am not even sure she was invited but then my ex had zero friends show up to the wedding, so who knows?
Anyway, after our wedding she emailed him to congratulate us. In a reply, he sent her pictures of us from the wedding. I suggested we invite her and the kids over for dinner someday but my ex was super useless when it came to maintaining social relationships, so that never happened.
Then a few months later - she added me on LinkedIn (I know, thats the only form of social networking my ex used
) so whatever. My ex was like - yeah she wants to be good friends with us or whatever. Since he was unemployed and looking for a job, he met up with her once for lunch to sort of ask if she knew of any opportunities. Throughout the year he would bicker about how she has all these connections and he helped her financially during her divorce and now its tough times for him and he could use her help etc. etc. Anyway one day she did call him up about a job and she recommended him to this company who would give her contracts and were now looking for a full time lawyer - and her qualifications were beyond what the company could afford. Anyway my ex interviewed and got the job. Then he told me that if he asked this colleague of his for help, his employer would get upset and as a result he had to "figure" everything out on his own which was making his job stressful etc etc. I suggested he call her and chat with her as a friend and see how she dealt with the CEO, since she had worked with them before but he refused etc. Then he decided to quit the job after a month for what he considered a "better opportunity". I again suggested that he call her and clear the air since she had recommended him for the job - and he was worried he was burning a bridge with her or whatever. Anyway i dont know if he did that.
Meanwhile we separated for the first time during these times. And according to my ex - he had discussed some of our issues with her because she sent me a message on linkedin saying - "I am sorry you are going through this. Take care". Obviously I didn't respond to that when we were separated but did respond to her when we had decided to reconcile - thanking her for her concern.
When I finally separated from my ex last year - he "removed" me from his LinkedIn connections, which was like whatever for me. But I guess she stayed on and because I don't prolifically use linkedin, I never bothered to go remove her from my connections.
This weekend, I received a message from her - "Hi Mucc, How are you doing? I notice that [insert ex's name] is not on Linkedin anymore. Is everything OK with him?"
So I responded and said - I am sorry I dont know whats up with him or his linkedin because we are not together anymore.
To that she responded - I am really worried about him since I haven't heard from him for a long time. Hope you are doing well
And I haven't responded to that anymore.
Do you guys think thats weird? It makes no sense to me. I have never met this woman, she hasn't talked to me in the last year (its not like she checks in on me from time to time) and why didn't she just email him directly?
I just started paperwork a couple of weeks ago and wondering if this has anything to do with that too? Or maybe I am just over analyzing a simple situation because I am paranoid about my ex.
Thank you all