Re: Its Over and Somehow I got taken for a fool.... again
Right now you are your own worst enemy with all the self destructive thoughts and behavior.
In order to get through this, you need to make some adjustments in your life, just like I did, just like just about every single divorced man must do.
You won't see your kids as much, your living situation is going to change, and you'll have additional expenses.
None of this is the end of the world but if you treat it as if it is, then it's going to be that much more difficult then it already is.
The changes you need to make won't happen overnight, it's like a big barge slowly rolling along that needs to make a turn. It happens slowly, but steadily and over time you start to see your progress, but you need to be patient and work on developing a more positive attitude, just like the rest of us "successful" divorced guys. What's the alternative? Sink deeper into the pit of self despair because life didn't go the way you planned? It's an option but not one I recommend you choose.