Re: Its Over and Somehow I got taken for a fool.... again
The last thing your kids would want - is for you to harm yourself.
Regroup. Contact the numbers to see if there are other options.
I don't know what state you are in, but something very wrong has happened... and **THIS** is why you never trust your own lawyer. My wife was paying for a lawyer when we were at war with each other. When we started (R)- she showed me everything. I found problems with the lawyer's info not matching the courthouse - because *I* went to the courthouse to see what is actually going on. She stopped wasting her money.
Here is a MAJOR-NO-NO. Again - you need to confirm with a legal help group perhaps.
1 - You *ARE* supposed to be notified of ANY and ALL hearings.
2 - Did your crazy EX know where you lived or where you worked? (If yes - then you need to dig)
3 - Did she or the court make any attempt to contact you? AKA "SERVED" papers to you? (If no = major NO NO from the court)
4 - if you have not been served - find out WHY?
Go *TO THE COURTHOUSE* and get access to your CASE RECORDS - they are PUBLIC, if not at least OPEN to YOU!
It will include info regarding SERVE paperwork as well.
Let's say your EX provided the court FALSE information. The court would spend about 2~4 months trying to get YOU served or a public notice to appear in court. Who the hell reads a newspaper anyway?
If you were in regular contact with your EX and she never said anything... and knows your address... things are fishy.
If the address / contact info they have on you *IS WRONG* / fraud - that should grant you a re-trial / or something. Let's say your address is 8118 Generic Drive, but the process server had 1881 Generic Drive. Which isn't even close.
Making a judgement without the proper process is WRONG. That is why there are rules about this.
Supporting those who want to divorce or reconcile. Not every relationship is the same.
Last edited by TaDor; 03-15-2017 at 03:59 AM.