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post #16 of 18 (permalink) Old 03-30-2017, 10:24 AM
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Re: Wife refuses to hand over w2

Update your FB privacy settings so your ex can't spy on you.
Or better yet, quit FB altogether. It causes nothing but issues in relationships anyway.
Enjoy the fact you're with your current gf, because you enjoy being with her. Not because you need to share it on social media.

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post #17 of 18 (permalink) Old 03-30-2017, 02:48 PM
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That's exactly what I'll have my son do - married but filing separately.
The issue really is her lack of cooperation on everything. Like mediation - its required by Indiana law to attempt mediation before trial. She refuses to attempt mediation unless I pay for it. My lawyer isn't getting any response from her lawyer about 1st mediation. My wife said that she won't attempt mediation unless I agree to pay for it and she said her lawyer won't respond to my lawyer unless I agree to pay for mediation.

1. Should I pay?
That is such a weird one. What does your lawyer say? Since you're married, isn't all the money technically both or yours anyhow? So you might as well suck it up and pay, then maybe bring that up in mediation - that you'd like that expense considered in the division of assets. If it's the law that you go to mediation, what happens with couples where there is only one bread winner? Who is filing for divorce? If you are filing and the law says mediation, maybe she can make you pay. It's just bizarre and I would ask your lawyer.

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2. Would her lawyer actually say such a thing?
I would think it unlikely, except hasn't your lawyer tried communicating with hers and get no response? It could be her lawyer is one of the super a-hole divorce lawyers, or it could be your wife is so nuts/difficult her lawyer is laying low hoping you'll pay so he doesn't have to deal with her rage. Either way, there have to be other people in Indiana who've gotten divorced with a spouse unwilling to play nice and do the mediation. Again, what does your lawyer say about all this?

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Its a simple divorce because I'm not disputing custody. Going to trial would cost us both lots of money.

Is the division of assets simple? Is there anything contested between you two? When I divorced my ex we just each kept our own credit card debt and income and went our own way. There was no trial. I had a paralegal I knew draw up the paperwork, we submitted it to the court, it was approved and we were divorced. (In CA)

In hindsight, that was hugely stupid on my part because I should have gone after some of our assets - won't bore you with that story here - but my point is if you two are in agreement on everything you might not need mediation or trial.

Now - your Wife? She sounds like a first class *****. She is being difficult just to get a rise out of you any way she can. I don't know the back story of why you are getting divorced, but she sounds like a real piece of work. I might suggest placating her for now just to speed this process up and get her out of your life, except with the kids she will have her tenacles in your life for a long time so you probably need to draw a line now.

Have you heard of using an intermediary? Even people with children do it. You and your W go through a neutral third party person to communicate with each other. The third party person (friend/relative) ONLY passes along information to you that is necessary. None of your wife's rants, ravings, threats, etc. Just things like "Susie has a Dr. appt. next week." Since it sounds like your W is deliberately trying to get to you, something like that might help remove whatever stimulus it is she's getting from messing with you.
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Re: Wife refuses to hand over w2

You being on FB and posting pics etc about your life with a new woman is causing you problems. That is most likely fueling your wife's bad attitude.

Turn your facebook into milk toast right now. Take all reference and even friending the gf down for now.
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