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post #1 of 18 (permalink) Old 03-29-2017, 06:12 PM Thread Starter
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Wife refuses to hand over w2

I'm separated and living overseas so I'm having my son do my taxes. He asked my wife for my w2 and she told him that I had to ask her so I sent her an email asking her to give him the w2s. She then told him I had to call and ask, which I won't do.

What legal action can I take against her?

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Re: Wife refuses to hand over w2

Why not just pick up the phone and call her?

Another option would be to simply file your taxes as "married filing separate".

Another option would be to tell her that you will file your taxes as "married filing separate" if she doesn't cooperate.
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Or just contact your employer and ask for a duplicate W2 and ask them to mail it to your son's address.

She's trying to keep you engaged--take the wind out of her sails. Cut her out of the middle. You can't force her to be a "good person" so accept that she's petty and vindictive, and get her out of your business.

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Re: Wife refuses to hand over w2

Why is your mail going to your wife's place? Change address on all documents
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Oh wait its YOUR W-2 not hers.

Yeah what the other poster said, just contact your employer.
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Re: Wife refuses to hand over w2

So, in response to my request for the w2, my wife sent me this:

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Thanks a lot for all the dramas you creat in my life. After 10 years marriage, all you care about is the money while no matter what you do to me, I still have to whip my tears and take care of the girls. Nobody is taking away the assets. I just used the fund to refinance the house. I cant understand after everything you've done to me, you still are not satisfied. I really hope you can just enjoy your new life with your girlfriend and we can be civil towards each other. After all, we have two beautiful girls together, we need to do co-parenting the rest of our life whether you like it or not. We don't have to be friends. but I don't really have time or energy to fight with you. Can we just go along with our life, stop being angry to each other. Let the judge decide what we can or cannot have. I don't know how long I can live, I basically live for my girls. if you can just make it for the girls, I will take good care of them. Just imagine, if I die, who can take care of Sissy and Jenny?
I responded that we need to mediate before we go to court, its required in Indiana, and I told that my lawyer has reached out to her lawyer several times and is not getting any reply as to when the 1st mediation session can be held. She responded with this:

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She (my wife's lawyer) will only contact your lawyer in one condition which you're willing to pay the mediator all by yourself.
I have 2 questions:

1. Should I agree to pay for the mediator?
2. Would her lawyer actually say such a thing and if so, why not tell my lawyer?
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I'm separated and living overseas so I'm having my son do my taxes. He asked my wife for my w2 and she told him that I had to ask her so I sent her an email asking her to give him the w2s. She then told him I had to call and ask, which I won't do.

What legal action can I take against her?
Can he do the taxes for you as "married filing separately?" or are things too complicated for that?
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Re: Wife refuses to hand over w2

What is the problem? Just file a separate return and be done with it. That is what a lot of divorced and separated couples do. Nothing says you have to file a joint return.

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That's exactly what I'll have my son do - married but filing separately.
The issue really is her lack of cooperation on everything. Like mediation - its required by Indiana law to attempt mediation before trial. She refuses to attempt mediation unless I pay for it. My lawyer isn't getting any response from her lawyer about 1st mediation. My wife said that she won't attempt mediation unless I agree to pay for it and she said her lawyer won't respond to my lawyer unless I agree to pay for mediation.

1. Should I pay?
2. Would her lawyer actually say such a thing?

Its a simple divorce because I'm not disputing custody. Going to trial would cost us both lots of money.
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That's exactly what I'll have my son do - married but filing separately.
The issue really is her lack of cooperation on everything. Like mediation - its required by Indiana law to attempt mediation before trial. She refuses to attempt mediation unless I pay for it. My lawyer isn't getting any response from her lawyer about 1st mediation. My wife said that she won't attempt mediation unless I agree to pay for it and she said her lawyer won't respond to my lawyer unless I agree to pay for mediation.

1. Should I pay?
2. Would her lawyer actually say such a thing?

Its a simple divorce because I'm not disputing custody. Going to trial would cost us both lots of money.

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If you want out bad enough and quick I would pay for the mediator... I'm guessing in the scope of $ it's probably minor...Especially if it "helps" out the kids...

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Re: Wife refuses to hand over w2

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That's exactly what I'll have my son do - married but filing separately.
Does your wife have a job? Does she have a W2?
You might ask your son to do your taxes as married jointly and then married separately. Depending on some factors, if you file married but filing separately the rate is MUCH MUCH higher.
If at all possible you should file as married filing jointly.
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The issue really is her lack of cooperation on everything. Like mediation - its required by Indiana law to attempt mediation before trial. She refuses to attempt mediation unless I pay for it. My lawyer isn't getting any response from her lawyer about 1st mediation. My wife said that she won't attempt mediation unless I agree to pay for it and she said her lawyer won't respond to my lawyer unless I agree to pay for mediation.

1. Should I pay?
2. Would her lawyer actually say such a thing?

Itís a simple divorce because I'm not disputing custody. Going to trial would cost us both lots of money.
If you want to get to mediation, maybe you should go ahead and pay for it. You can always ask that the cost of mediation be considered as part of the settlement. Like 50% of it comes out of any assets she gets.

Or if you make a lot more than she does, just pay it to get done with the divorce.
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That's exactly what I'll have my son do - married but filing separately.
The issue really is her lack of cooperation on everything. Like mediation - its required by Indiana law to attempt mediation before trial. She refuses to attempt mediation unless I pay for it. My lawyer isn't getting any response from her lawyer about 1st mediation. My wife said that she won't attempt mediation unless I agree to pay for it and she said her lawyer won't respond to my lawyer unless I agree to pay for mediation.

1. Should I pay?
2. Would her lawyer actually say such a thing?

Its a simple divorce because I'm not disputing custody. Going to trial would cost us both lots of money.
It doesn't sound like it's going to be simple, she is already causing conflict by withholding your W2 and avoiding mediation. It sounds like she's hateful and will cause drama when she can. I say you better prepare for battle.

Get the W2 from your employer and file as married living separately, that's easy.

As for paying for mediation....if it's takes a few hundred dollars to get things moving I would pay, it will be cheaper than having your attorney argue with her attorney.
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Re: Wife refuses to hand over w2

Are the kids yours or hers?

Did you leave her for another woman?
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Re: Wife refuses to hand over w2

I'm glad I posted the question "should I pay for mediation" because I would have thought no but I see its unanimous that it a good move to pay so I will defer to the wisdom of the site. I contacted her lawyer directly and said I would pay for the initial or 1st mediation.

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Did you leave her for another woman?
I left because she had an affair that I could not get over even after a good 2 years of trying. There is a woman now in my life that I'm with. I update FB with out photos and I guess my wife has been stalking me there.
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